#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (he's just not that into me, now what?
What are you doing to feed your dating pipeline? You are clearly fixating on this individual because you have this preexisting bond and connection, but have you taken other dates? Has he seen how desirable and much men want you? One guy isn't enough.
#NerdsUnite: Pursue with Courage (one nerd's journey through chemo & cancer)
I got a new tattoo (my second real one… it’s a lot more common 1) “these days”, and 2) in Hawaii where everyone runs around half-naked and covered in colorful, usually meaningful, art work). Mine is a key (to Sean’s heart… he has a locked up heart tattoo) with a whale tail (a Hawaiian humpback of course!) surrounded by a pink ribbon. It’s on my wrist where I can cover it for work. But if I don’t have to, I leave it out. I’ve gone back to work on the boats and between the tattoo and the new hair, I have had some questions from some very curious women (so far it’s always been women, the observant sisterhood they tend to be). I had someone outright ask, “What kind of cancer?” and later another woman said, “Ah, I saw your tattoo…” and I even got, “So, what’s the story behind your hair?”
#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (how do you know when to end a date?)
IF, however, I am super into the guy, instead of calling it a night I will suggest a change of location. You never want to be "stagnant" on a first date. When you're first getting to know someone there are only so many things you can ask them (as you want to maintain surface level conversation. NEVER EVER get into politics, religion, or anything negative.). Creating a change of scenery will give you more of an organic refresh on the conversation and keep things fun and upbeat. Anytime I pick a bar for a first date, I will also make sure there are cool "plan b and c" bars nearby for alternative points of discussion.
#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (I want one thing and my parents want another)
Your parents will ALWAYS want what they THINK is best for their daughter, or their son - but who are you? That is the only thing in life you ever have to solve for. It's terribly difficult breaking free from that and becoming your own person, but remember, it is all a step by step process. (And a jug of water gets filled one drop at a time.) I completely lucked out with having parents that apparently knew from when I was just a few days old that "this one was different." (I have an older brother who was apparently quite the good baby. I, on the other hand, was a terror from the womb.) My parents embraced my weirdness and told me that with hard work and my mind set to something I could accomplish ANYTHING. (Mother and father, you were both very right.)
#RealDeal: You're killing me smalls (30 day dating detox)
I'm going to now Miyagi the shit out of my life and focus on self in the hopes of that changing my energy and the kind of people I am attracting into my life. In Buddhism they teach you that peace comes from within, and you cannot seek it. I am "seeking" a partner when I am really looking to fix something within myself. I don't know what that "lack" is yet, but I know by kicking my own ass I will definitely find ... something.
#ThatAwkwardMomentWhen: You get accosted by a dude with a mullet
<tangent> BTW I am the WORST person to ever get in an argument with. I will never ever ever fight back or sling an insult at someone. It's just not my scene. Instead I remain extremely calm and start asking neutral questions to negate the scenario all together. It's the fastest way to piss someone off more sometimes, but if you can execute it correctly you will also be able to just remove yourself from the scenario which is always the best thing to do anyway. Never EVER take anything personal in life, nerds. I learned that from reading The Four Agreements after getting hit in the head with the brick.</tangent>
#CES2013: I can't believe this is real life (how im staying in a penthouse suite for free)
I'm obsessed with juxtapositions. Even though we are in this BOMB ASS pad, I'm still making everyone at the party drink two buck chuck and PBR. I love love love the classy/ trashy themes. It's like if you're going to be posh at least still keep that shit real.
#NerdsUnite: Tips for calming your nerves before a big date
Either way, I immediately liked this dude when I met him so finding out that he was not only single but also into me sent me on a one way ticket to nervous town.
#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (I kissed a co-worker on NYE. Now what?)
I worked 9-5s for years and I pretty much made it a rule to never date a co-worker. It's too incestuous and you spend too much time in an intimate setting. Obvi sexual tension and chemistry can't be denied - but it HAS TO HAS TO HAS TO stop at just a friendly flirtation.