#NerdsUnite: How To Know if a Shy Guy Likes You: Body Language Tips and Tells
Talk Nerdy To Me’s @StaffWriter:
Body language is a powerful tool that can be used to detect the feelings of others. If you are curious about how to know if a shy guy likes you, then you might want to pay attention to these body language tips and tells!
5 Top Body Language Tells That a Shy Guy Likes You
There are many body language signs shy guys might display.
However, many shy guys will use the same top five body language tells.
Makes himself look small
Mirrors your movements
Looks around for you
Preens when you are around
Fidgets
Makes Himself Look Small
When a shy guy is interested in someone, he will often try to make himself look as small as possible. He may hunch his shoulders and cross his arms to avoid drawing attention to himself.
Shy guys do this because they are often uncomfortable around people they are attracted to. They unconsciously want to be invisible or nonthreatening.
Mirrors Your Movements
Another body language tell that a shy guy likes you is that he might start mirroring your movements. If you are leaning back in your chair, he may be inclined to do the same.
If you pay attention, people mirror each other without meaning to all the time.
Looks Around for You
A shy guy might also look for you when he enters a room or area.
As humans, we often look toward the people we like, respect, or fear. In group settings, people look at whoever they identify as the "leader," even if that person does not hold an official title.
If he is always looking for you, then it's a sign that his feelings are strong.
Preens When You Are Around
Another way to tell if a shy guy likes you is when they start preening in your presence. This means he'll make himself look as appealing and neat as possible by making sure his clothes fit properly.
He Fidgets When He Sees You
One last thing that can indicate whether or not a shy guy likes you is that he might seem like his attention is elsewhere. He may be looking around the room or fidgeting with something in his hands.
This is a very common cue that someone is nervous, so be sure to look for it.
More Signs That a Shy Guy Secretly Likes You (Body Language Secrets)
Ok, those are the top five body language cues that a shy guy likes you—but what are some more tells?
It really depends on the guy, but here are some general things to look out for:
He might start avoiding eye contact.
He might keep his hands hidden or in his pockets a lot.
He might not talk as much around you, or he might have a harder time coming up with things to say.
If he's normally really active, he might become more subdued and introverted when he's around you.
Again, all of these signs can vary depending on the guy, so it's important to watch out for as many clues as possible.
I recommend looking for "clusters" of cues so that you don't jump to conclusions based on a single flick of the eye or fidget of the foot.
You might not see the signs right away, but if you pay attention and watch for clusters of cues, then it should become more clear. A "cluster" is usually 3 or more body language signals all pointing to the same interpretation.
Now that you know how to decode body language signals from a shy guy, it should be easier to figure out whether or not he likes you!
Signs a Shy Guy Likes You But Is Trying Not To Show It
What if a shy guy is intentionally trying to hide his attraction to you?
Unless he is a body language expert, he's unlikely to be able to hide every single cue that he's into you. He may be able to control his major tells, but then you can look for microexpressions.
For example, you might notice:
A flicker of a smile
Quickly averting his gaze
Blushing
Rapid blinking or avoiding eye contact entirely
Bigger pupils
If you notice that his face is turning red in your presence, but it does not seem like a hot flash or embarrassment, then there might be something else going on.
His eyes will often give him away.
When he sees someone he is physically attracted to, a shy guy's eyes will dilate (the black part of his eyes get larger). This is a sign of physical arousal.
Most people blink more often and faster when they feel nervous, so that's something else to watch.
Most importantly these microexpressions are very difficult to hide.
How To Get A Shy Guy To Ask You Out (With Body Language)
If this guy likes you but lacks the confidence to approach you himself, then all that's left to do is be patient and give him time. You might not want to flirt with anyone else too much in front of him because he will feel even more nervous around you if he sees another guy flirting with his crush.
Shy guys are often hesitant to make the first move, so it's up to you to take the initiative.
You can make two moves:
Ask him out
Send him open and inviting body language
The first one is a little more straightforward, but the second option can be harder.
You need to make sure that you're sending out the right signals without being too obvious about it. A good way to do this is by making eye contact and smiling warmly at him—this shows that you're interested in what he has to say.
You can also try leaning in when he's talking and maintaining good posture.
If you're standing, then make sure to have your body angled toward him.
These are all subtle signals that will let him know that you're interested in him. Eventually, he'll get the hint and make his move.
Good luck!
