#Dating: 103 dates in 9 months meets @OneHundredDates

#Dating: 103 dates in 9 months meets @OneHundredDates

First off, thanks Evan for writing that, and thanks so much for your email. For one, it was cool getting to go back two years in time and remember everything Evan mentioned. That whole self-reflection thing while still in that same frame of reference (at least in my experience) was complete BS. You can’t learn what your lesson is until you know whatever it is you’ve signed up for.

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#YesAllWomen: A male's perspective

#YesAllWomen: A male's perspective

Rarely are we judged on our sexual actions, rarely do we fear walking home in the dark, rarely do we have to suffer cat calls and beratements based on our attire. Men as a whole sex have no idea what a girl goes through on a daily basis. No matter what small inconvenience we may have suffered once. It is not something we have to live with everyday. We can’t wrap our heads around it, because it is not our reality. So we stay silent because we don’t know what to say. Some men will sympathize, but no man can empathize. It would seem the only time men have something to say is when it comes to defending their honor. Because we are all honorable aren’t we. When women make broad sweeping statements about all men being some way. We react in hostility saying

#NotallMen.

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#NerdsUnite: Just let it go, man

#NerdsUnite: Just let it go, man

Think of life like a coloring book. No matter what you are given x amount of pages in this book. The lines are there, the basic objects you are asked to color are presented but it is YOUR CHOICE what colors you choose, what tools to color, do you even want to color within the lines or are you someone who enjoys coloring outside of them? Life just is. Period end of sentence. These experiences you have, the experiences we all have - are just that ... experiences. If you let them define you you're going to be in a world of hurt.

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#RealDeal: What being a relationship blogger taught me about relationships

#RealDeal: What being a relationship blogger taught me about relationships

I briefly told him about certain projects, but the proudest moment was in telling him that I honestly don't know. I don’t know why I am living where I am, or why I am doing what I do. I don’t know much of anything anymore, but things keep seeming to work out and the fact that I'm dealing with politicians who have read this site and high fived me for just going for it made me laugh. I thought for sure once they read about me they'd run.

He laughed saying, that’s when you’re really being honest. None of us know, but it takes all those trials, errors, and successes to at least have a better idea of what you think will work.

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#RealDeal: Single? Taken? Confused? Who cares! Here's a different approach to Valentines day

#RealDeal: Single? Taken? Confused? Who cares! Here's a different approach to Valentines day

All week, I have heard complaint after complaint from my friends regarding Valentine’s Day. Some are happy with their relationship but are angry that their spouse/ sig-o doesn't do anything (or very little) for Vday. Others, are single and view this day as an annual reminder of their inadequacies. I won't say where I am on the spectrum, but this year I do have a different appreciation for love and for this holiday. Here are my thoughts ...

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Fun with #OkCupid: @Brandoncomedy goes undercover ...

Fun with #OkCupid: @Brandoncomedy goes undercover ...

I’ve been undercover lately. As a kid, I always wanted to be a spy, to know secrets and wear tuxedos all the time. But real life spying wasn’t in the cards for me, so instead I made a fake profile to find out what women really experience with online dating, all in the effort to present myself optimally.

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#RealDeal: Living on both ends of the spectrum (Bipolar Hallway)

#RealDeal: Living on both ends of the spectrum (Bipolar Hallway)

I’ve been depressed lately. But instead of sitting in my room and sulking, I’ve made a conscious effort to mingle with people, and be social. It’s not working per-se, but it has got me talking about my condition. A friend asked me to describe depression, saying that it seemed like just being sad all the time, and while that might describe general depression, it isn’t true to my experiences.

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#RealDeal: 10 lessons learned while being 28

#RealDeal: 10 lessons learned while being 28

I guess I just never realized how closed off emotionally I have been my whole life. The Shaman tried telling me a few times ... (very very very much appreciate all your help Brendan), but it took falling in love for me to actually see it. You can't see how selfish you are as a person until you have to become selfless. I can hear some of our earlier conversations and I'm genuinely embarrassed. I know I can't go back, and I know there's nothing I can do about it, but I even apologized to my dad the other day. I thought back to how selfish I was as a teenager, young adult, ::whispers:: and even when I was a-not-so-young-adult. He of course just laughed, and said it's what you do as a parent when you love your child.

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#NerdsUnite: Gratitude for Love in Your Life

#NerdsUnite: Gratitude for Love in Your Life

All of us go through personal victories and tragedies. The difference is in how we perceive these experiences. One can downplay the positives and dwell on the negatives. This will make life hell. On the other hand, you can have a beautiful life if we have a sense of gratitude for all the little positives that are manifested in our life.

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#RealDeal: 5 ways to offer each other extra space to enhance relationship

#RealDeal: 5 ways to offer each other extra space to enhance relationship

Relationship begins to decay, in case any of the partners start to feel suffocated due to the partner’s over clinginess. Couples interested to enhance their relationship and make much stronger should try out different ways that would assist them to understand each other better and to give that much needed space. It is to be remembered that being into relationship is not just a game, but requires plenty of effort for maintaining it. Moreover, it also needs to pass through every test and remain intact.

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