#Question: What to do when a girl leaves you on read?

Talk Nerdy To Me’s @StaffWriter:

It’s happened to all of us. We text or call a girl we like, and when she doesn’t answer right away, we start to worry. Maybe she’s not interested in us after all. Maybe she’s busy with something else. Or maybe… she just left you on read.

It can be tough to take when a girl leaves you on read. Your heart sinks, and you feel like you’ve been kicked in the gut. But don’t worry – there are things you can do to respond, get over it, and move on.

Here are the best tips for what to do when a girl leaves you on read.

Assume the Best

If you're going to assume, go ahead and assume the best. In most cases, when a girl leaves you on read, it's not because she's not interested in you. It's usually because she's busy with something else, or she just didn't see your text.

So before you do anything else, assume that the best is happening. She's probably just busy and will get back to you soon.

Don't Panic

It's natural to feel a little panicky when a girl leaves you on read, but try to resist the urge. Panicking will only make things worse, and it will be hard to think clearly if you're in full-blown panic mode.

Instead, take a few deep breaths and try to calm down. Once you've calmed down, you'll be able to think more clearly and come up with a plan.

Don't Respond

This is probably the hardest thing to do, but it's also the most important. When a girl leaves you on read, the last thing you want to do is respond. Responding will only make things worse, and it will show her that you're desperate and needy.

If you can't resist the urge to respond, at least try to keep your response short and sweet. And whatever you do, don't beg or plead with her to talk to you. That will only make her dislike you more.

Talk to a Friend

When you're feeling down after a girl leaves you on read, talking to a friend can help. They can give you some perspective, and they can help you calm down and get over it.

Plus, talking to a friend is a good way to distract yourself from the situation. If you're busy talking to a friend, you're not going to have time to sit around and mope.

Look Closer at the Message You Sent

Sometimes, the message you sent does not need or request a response.  If you're messaging a girl you just met, for example, and you tell her the details of your day, there's no need for her to respond.

In other cases, the message may be more ambiguous. For example, if you send a girl a text that says "Hey, just thinking about you" she may not know whether or not she's supposed to respond.

In these cases, it's helpful to take a closer look at the message you sent. If it's clear that a response is not necessary or expected, don't get upset when she doesn't answer.

Move On

Eventually, you're going to have to move on. The best way to do that is by forgetting about the girl who left you on read. Stop texting her, stop calling her, and stop thinking about her.

It's not always going to be easy, but it's the only way to get over her. Distract yourself from the situation. If you want to, you can start a new relationship with someone who is more interested in you.

What To Do if a Girl Leaves You on Delivered

Being left on read is bad enough, but what do you do if a girl leaves you on delivered? Being left on delivered means that the girl did not even read your last message.

Most of the advice included earlier in this article applies.

• Don't assume the worst

• Don't keep texting (it might annoy her)

• Give her time and space to respond

• Move on if she never reads  or responds

What To Say When Someone Leaves You on Read

If you do happen to run into this person in the real world, what the heck do you say? 

Here are a few things you can say:

• "Hey, I saw you left me on read. I just wanted to say sorry for whatever I did wrong."

• "Hey, I noticed you didn't respond to my message and I was just wondering what happened."

• "Hi, it's been a while since we talked and I just wanted to know how you've been."

These are all safe topics of conversation that will not put the other person on the defensive. If they bring up a valid reason that they left you on read, be prepared to apologize and explain yourself.

Wait, If a Girl Leaves You on Read, Should You Text Her Again?

Unless you think she may be hurt or in trouble, don't text her again. Let her text you back on her own timeframe. She may never respond to you. Texting her again can seem very tempting, but it is almost always a mistake.

When you text back before she responds, she might think:

• You are needy

• You are desperate

• You are not busy and have nothing else to do but text her

All of these are not good things. They will reduce her attraction to you and make it less likely that you get a response.

It's hard to just sit and wait for a girl to text you back, but it's the best thing to do in this situation. If she doesn't message you for several days or weeks, you may even want to delete her number from your phone so that you don't temptation to text her again.

Final Thoughts

If someone leaves you on read through texting, on Snapchat, or any other social media platform, the same "rules" apply. The most important thing to do is to stay positive and don't double or triple text.

Wait her out, let her come to you when she's ready, and focus on your life.