What To Do When Your Partner Changes
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It is said that change is the only constant in life. And while this may be true, it certainly doesn't make change any easier to deal with. In fact, change can be downright frightening—especially when it involves a loved one.
When your partner changes, it can feel like everything you know and love is shifting underneath your feet. You may not know how to react or what to do to make things right again.
But don't worry, you're not alone. Change is a difficult process for everyone involved. The important thing is to take things one step at a time and to remember that things will eventually get better.
Here are a few tips on how to cope when your partner changes.
Don't try to control the situation
The first thing you need to remember is that you can't control how your partner changes or what they do. All you can do is control how you react to it. Trying to force things to go back to the way they were will only make things worse.
For example, if your partner decides they want to change careers or start a new diet, there's nothing you can do to 100% convince them to do otherwise.
Don't bottle up your feelings
When your partner changes, it's natural to feel a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion and disbelief. It's important to express these feelings instead of bottling them up inside. This will help you process them and will make it easier for you to move on.
Give yourself time to adjust
Change is a gradual process and it will take time for you to adjust to your partner's new behavior. Don't try to force things or rush the process. Just take it one day at a time and allow yourself to feel what you're feeling.
If you try to rush your adjustment, you may find that you're not ready to accept your partner's new behavior and you could end up pushing them away.
Seek support from family and friends
It can be helpful to talk to family and friends about what you're going through. They can offer support and advice, and they can help keep you grounded during this difficult time.
Don't underestimate the importance of social support.
Knowing that you are not alone can be a great comfort during this difficult time.
Take care of yourself
When your partner changes, it's important to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. Make sure you get plenty of rest, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly.
This will help keep you strong during this difficult time.
Don't make any major decisions
If your partner changes, it's not the time to make any major decisions like moving, quitting your job, or ending the relationship. These decisions can be made later, after you've had a chance to process everything that's going on.
There is no need to stack one sudden change on top of another change.
Quick changes can rock a relationship completely off balance, as opposed to giving yourself time to take a step back and look at the situation in a different light.
Don't blame yourself
It's important to remember that your partner's change is not your fault. You didn't cause it and you can't fix it. Blaming yourself will only make things worse.
Blame often gets in the way of acceptance and growth.
When you release anger and blame, you open yourself up to finding other solutions and to forgiving your partner (if necessary).
Be patient
Be patient and give yourself and your partner the space they need to work through things at their own pace. Patience is key during this time.
Relationships are always changing, but the changes don't always have to be negative. Be patient and let things unfold in their own natural way.
The important thing to remember is that change is difficult for everyone involved.
Not All Change is Permanent
Not all change is permanent. Your partner may change back to the way they were eventually. Or they may continue to change in different ways.
Some relationships can withstand big changes, while others may not be able to survive them. Try to accept what comes, support your partner, and express your feelings in gentle ways.
Seek professional help if necessary
If you're finding it difficult to cope with your partner's change on your own, it may be helpful to seek professional help. A therapist can provide you with support and guidance during this difficult time.
Change is never easy, but with time and patience, you can work through it.
When your partner changes, it can be a difficult time for both of you. You may feel a range of emotions, from sadness to anger, confusion, and disbelief. It's important to express these feelings instead of bottling them up inside. This will help you process them and will make it easier for you to move on.
It will take time for you to adjust to your partner's new behavior so don't try to force things or rush the process.
When Your Partner Changes (Quotes)
Reading quotes can help ease the impact when your partner changes. Here are a few quotes to help you through this transition:
"I don’t care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching they are your family."—Jim Butcher
"You get a strange feeling when you’re about to leave a place. Like you’ll not only miss the people you love but you’ll miss the person you are now at this time and this place, because you’ll never be this way ever again."—Azar Nafisi
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them."—Maya Angelou
These quotes can help you remember that you are not alone in this situation and that your partner's change is not always permanent. You can also use these quotes as a way to express your feelings to your partner.
When Your Partner Changes (Final Thoughts)
Change in relationships is inevitable. Treat your partner's changes the way that you hope and want them to treat your changes. Everyone eventually changes.
You might as well embrace and enjoy them.
