#NerdsUnite: The community reacts to "Antonio"
Wow. Wow. and Wow. Out of all of the guys I've dated in the last two years I've very genuinely never had quite the reaction to my latest date "Antonio."
I live my life obviously in an EXTREMELY public manner ... but I was just telling my mom on the phone today that I was SHOCKED that not. a. single. guy. has planned a Friday or Saturday night date with me. See, dudes get the whole "prime real estate" value in scheduling a date with a female for either Friday or Saturday by either Tuesday or Wednesday. I received only ONE text message from a guy I've been seeing only an hour ago. I haven't received even a SINGLE new OKC message from a guy asking me out, or even from the two guys I've been dating for the last few weeks ... its so UNBELIEVABLY high-larious that having a guy take you to Vegas changes everything in your dating ecosphere. (Statistically speaking I average at least 2 dates a week from both online and offline.) I don't document my "real time" dating components anymore, but good god one dude doing something so EXTREME has cleared the plate for every other guy. Do guys not get that this only makes what he did that much more awesome?? COME ON!!!
Look at the latest email I just received ...
First off, I come from money, and trust me - this guy did ABSOLUTELY not bat an eye at what was spent. What I didn't talk about was the fact that he is older than me, and while I won't say how old he is because that reveals too much, from the storytelling perspective you have to TRUST the fact that the money he spent he absolutely absolutely absolutely did not bat an eye at.
My dad is a lawyer, and while I don't know what my parents make - I can ABSOLUTELY guarantee with this guy's lifestyle from a sociological perspective he didn't care. I have the freedom with my schedule and lifestyle the same freedom that he has with his finances. He very very very genuinely doesn't care. If I felt like I was being bought I would have bolted. (I literally cried at what I was sending out to the universe with the last guy that tried to buy me.) The two most intimate moments of that weekend were when he remembered my coffee order and brought it to me in bed, and the quiet time we spent before we boarded the plane. It has less to do with the entire trip and more of the romantic gesture.
I out of respect to Antonio will NOT document the rest of our courtship, but all I can say to every other guy is step up man. It takes chicks a couple of dates to get into a guy and to resonate to his courtship and if ya'll are this intimated out the gate - you are making it THAT much easier for him.