#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (breaking free from shame)
It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.
Here's one I got the other day ...
Emails like this absolutely HURT.MY.HEART.
Can't you guys FEEL the shame this poor dude is feeling?
HORRIBLE.HORRIBLE.HORRIBLE.
Alrite dude, the fetish is the leading cause of stress in your life because you are allowing it to be. I'm here today, right now, to tell you that IT IS OKAY!! All of my slaves are extremely successful, most have families in fact, and look like ANYONE you would see at the grocery store or on the soccer field. You're not alone, I have three other emails in my inbox right now actually from OTHER dudes expressing the same concern.
18 is an awkward age for fetish expression, so I empathize greatly with your predicament. When people don't understand something (like a fetish) they immediately shun it and make fun of the person who is expressing it. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. This is merely THEIR OWN projections and THEIR OWN ignorance.
What would I suggest doing?
Have you tried meeting someone online? Maybe even try FetLife or one of the fetish social networks. You can't control people's juvenile reactions to what you are experiencing, but you can market yourself better to people who might respond better. (Work smarter, not harder)
THEENNNN, after you have a positive experience there (which no doubt you will since again, it's a fetish social network), you will naturally start to feel more comfortable in your own skin and should you meet someone organically IRL you will be less hesitant about opening up to them WHICH will ultimately give you more confidence anyway and help break you free from this shame.
Sexual charges, and sexual impulses are CARNAL. They have to, have to, have to be expressed. You can't deny this part of who you are, but again it is your job to better position yourself with someone that will ALSO be turned on by this fetish.
Stay sane duderino, and again, know you are very very very much not alone.
Love you so long time it hurts and CONGRATS on being so brave and reaching out.
To keep an even score of vulnerability, want to know my fetish?? watch! =)
Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com
ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it's within 140 characters on the twitter!