#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (Do I have an uncharacteristic need to be in a relationship?)
It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.
Here is an email I got this morning ...
Wow, this is third date discussion? Holy crap!!
First up, I am barely one to speak - I know when I get those CRAZY overwhelming feelings you just gotta slow your roll. If it's meant to be, (and whatever that truly means) it's not going to matter if you guys have some space for a minute. Dating is a COMPLETELY reflective experience. Everyone that I've ever been attracted to on that visceral level has always been at a similar spot to myself. The "butterfly" feelings you get from someone isn't courtesy of destiny or ANY of that bullshit, but rather emotional recognition. You have to do a TONNNNNN of self work to see what vibration you are ringing at - but that's another topic of conversation.
Secondly, the title of the email was ... "Do I have an uncharacteristic need to be in a relationship?"
The answer to every question we can ever ask in life is already inside of us. Period end of sentence.
If you're asking yourself this question, it looks like you have some truth to explore.
There is no such thing as "normal" or "characteristic" there is only being and self.
Who are you Jason? Have you ever asked yourself that question? If you were in a 6 year relationship in your 20s you missed out on a lot of emotional growth (even though you have been single for 2 years). Have you dated much? Are you going out and meeting people on a consistent basis? What is the base line here?
Taking things to the physical that level does make it tricky. Your bodies have very literally already bonded, but now you have to sort of do reverse engine operation and make sure that the heart and head are also in the right place.
From the female perspective, what I would suggest you do is go out on at least two different dates this week. You need to give this girl some time and some space. That conversation was SUPER EARLY to have after only three dates and at this point if you don't start playing it cool, she's going to lose interest.
Until you are in an exclusive relationship with someone anyway you should ALWAYS be dating other people. You don't need to have sex with anyone else, btw but DEF keep playing the field. Both parties should be doing it too!! If nothing else, it will end up bringing you both closer after you have definitively seen what is out there and can resonate more with how special this person truly is.
Also, I don't even suggest getting Facebook official with someone until AT LEAST a month after dating exclusively. AT LEAST AT LEAST AT LEAST. Getting friends and family involved in your business isn't necessary and the digital sleuthing will only complicate things.
Play it cool duderino. Just play it cool and keep us all posted!
Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com
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Best of luck out there nerds!!
xoxo <3 @JenFriel
