#DatingDisaster: The hookup from hell
I get a lot of emails from all of you loverly people telling me about YOUR amazing adventures in dating. I've decided to share the good, the bad, and the really really really bad.
Here's one I got last week ...
First of all, let me just say that statistically speaking this is a TOTAL anomaly. Obvi, it tells a good story which is always amazing - but out of ALL of the dates that I've been on on OKC, I can genuinely say there was only one duderino who was 50+ pounds over what I had anticipated. And FTR, there is NOTHING NOTHING NOTHING wrong with being on the heavier side, but it's the COMPLETE misrepresentation of self that bugs the bugger.
Secondly, I've done something like this before and I can TOTALLY relate. When I was 19, I met a dude off an AOL local chat here in LA. We chatted only a few times, exchanging pics - etc ... I genuinely don't know what went through my head but there I was at 19 getting IN MY CAR going over TO HIS APARTMENT!!! Albeit, he lived in Beverly Hills so I'm SURE my naive self said, oh nothing wrong can go on here.
He was actually hotter than his picture, and we totally hooked up - but I felt like shit afterwards. I'm not sure if it was the lonesomeness that I felt for something physical or what, but I didn't even like hang out after .... I just peaced. I still remember it as being one of the oddest choices I've EVER made in dating. It was COMPLETELY out of character.
So yeah, I get why you did something like this but babe, please please please please please don't EVER give a guy from a dating site your address and invite him over. I have had WONDERFUL interactions with the majority of men on OKC but you never know babe and above everything else you HAVE to protect your personal safety.
Alrite, so the mama hen in me just had to say that - but all in all this is a pretty freaking hilarious story. So he gets down to his boxers, got too excited, and came right then and there?
Wow. Wow. Wow.
I have an ENORMOUS amount of empathy for dudes in this situation but you HAVE TO calm yourself down. Eric our social dynamics expert has actually talked about this very problem on the site before.
From the female perspective however, I would suggest NEVER talking dirty to a dude on a dating site. If you want to cyber and get all hot and heavy - find a yahoo! chat and create an account. Dudes that are THAT forward about sex and use OKC as Adult Friend Finder are trouble trouble trouble. I'm ALL about the rebound after a heartbreak, I think it's SUPER important - but you're playing with the wrong kind of fire babe. These just genuinely aren't the greatest of guys and while yes, they are the first to pay attention to you, you HAVE TO rise above.
I'd suggest for a rebound either actually going out on a date or two with a guy from OKC (absolutely NO dirty talk in the chat or email) or even just ask one of your guy friends to hook you up with one of their peripheral friends. (Never a direct friend because then you run the risk of bumping into them again.) Get your dirty deeding down, and boom, move on.
No harm, no dry cleaning necessary! =)
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