#FootFetish: Introducing Mistress Jennifer and her 7 subs

Jun 18

AHH Mistress Jennifer ... oh how I love the ring to that.

As you all know by now, I am in the process of becoming a Do-It-Yourself dominatrix, and am currently exploring the space by accepting foot slaves. (Read more about how it all started in my Suicide Girls column here.) Again, this was all CRAZY accidental, but instead of turning my nose up at it I sat there and said, well, what can I learn from this situation?

I'm BAT SHIT CRAZY PASSIONATE and work a SOLID HUSTLE when it comes to business but in my personal life, I get told over and over and over how quiet people think I am when they meet me. They expect this larger than life presence and more than anything I just sit there quietly analyzing the situation. I'm not quite the wallflower, but I am DEFINITELY shyer than people expect. What is a good way to negate said shyness and FULLY walk into my personal truth??

DOMINATE.

<tangent> Dudes, I am SO FREAKING BASHFUL that I can't even talk dirty in bed. I try!! But I literally start laughing at myself when the words escape my mouth!! I experience things to tell stories and the stories that I tell are all written - so to actually HEAR MY OWN VOICE doing all of this is going to be INNNSAANNNEEEE!!! </tangent>

I loved loved loved my first session with the foot slave, and now by documenting my experience have been INUNDATED with more requests. I've spent a week or so breaking down what I know and what I have heard from you guys and have come up with my plan for moving forward - they are as follows:

1) I have created the character Mistress Jennifer.

This allows me to psychologically disassociate between myself and the fetish world while comfortably creating this space for me to explore this new side of my personality. The walk, the talk, the shoes - all something that I would not normally wear/do in my daily life. At least in the beginning I have to COMPLETELY compartmentalize this experience so I can freely establish the boundaries for myself without domestication or fear.

2) I will accept 7 foot slaves at any given time.

I'm not sure how long I am going to want to explore this space - but following a very Zen approach with everything, I will at least commit to it 100% in the here and the now. That being said, I can't have just one slave since I know I will become emotionally attached. Two slaves seems a bit ... meh ... but in my exploring of the root of the fetish in general, I have noticed that a common theme is that men want to be humiliated, objectified, and emasculated. How can I as the dom provide the sub with that end goal? One way is by creating competition. There will be no "given spots" to any slave. To win my approval they have to please me. Said pleasure will elicit a response which will continue my time with them. There is no beginning to our relationship, there is no end - it is through the pleasure they provide me in the here and the now that will continue things and will keep my interest. Any missed appointments, or failure to comply in any regard will result in an immediate exile.

3) Each of the 7 slaves will be named after one of the characters from Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.

I'm obvi a branding and marketing freak, but this one just so happened to also coincide with the emasculation which is at the root of the fetish. Can there really be anything more emasculating to a guy than being referred to as a Disney character?? I don't think so ... but also this will help keep track of all of the subs and for storytelling keep things fresh and easy to follow.

(And remember, just because someone get's a name doesn't necessarily mean they get to keep it. Doc has to EARN his place and be on point 24/7.)

4) Before every session begins, the sub must present me with a gift.

Remember the movie The Muse? It came out in the 90s and it was crazy funny, and crazy good. (It might still be streaming on Netflix.) In it this character claims to be this muse and gets all of these guys to bring her things before she even agrees to meet with them. While that scenario might sound a bit off by anyone's standard of living, it is EXTREMELY common in the fetish community. The sub always always always brings the dom a gift in the hopes of pleasing her. Pleasing me with gifts however as a minimalist is a weird thing ... so rather than think the gift is for Jen Friel, again, this is where Mistress Jennifer comes into play. (PUN INTENDED)

I have set up an amazon wishlist for all slaves to buy off of. The items are all bondage and S&M based ... from riding crops, to masks, gags, and corsets - everything is covered. (Or to the best of my ability right now ... again, this is all through random googling on my part. Someone REALLY needs to write a DIY guide for dominatrixes.)

No gift, no punishment ... I am here to be worshipped afterall.

I'm really excited about all of this. I'm going to structure a proper application for guys to fill out and apply - but for now if there are any ones wanting to jump the gun you can just drop me an email:

JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com.

I want you to beg ... grovel ... and WORK FOR IT!!!

RAAAWWWRRRR!!! Holy bejeepers this is going to be SO MUCH FREAKING FUN!!! I can be SUCH a bitch but I do it in the snarky passive aggressive manner. Now to just literally lay everything on the table is going to be SO RAD!!

Yay new life experience and what an exciting line to have in my obit.

Jen Friel, died today - she founded the website Talk Nerdy To Me, Lover in 2009 and was a part time dominatrix ...

AMAZING!!

If anyone as well can message me about doing this online that'd be awesome. I want to figure out a way to dominate subs via skype or whatever other technical outlet that makes sense. Basing this in LA is obviously easier for me, but I want to expand and scale this as much as I can while still having it make sense for the experience.

Ex: Maybe I could sit on my desk with my feet up and on cam and I can read boys a bedtime story?? =) I'm willing to try anything here ... literally.