Fun with #OkCupid: 3 different emails ... 3 different responses
First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received recently, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...
I get asked all of the time about my motivation for going out on over 103 dates in 9 months. The first thing you have to understand is that it was ALL accidental - and documented in real time. I went out on 96 dates in 8 months, and while I was dogsitting for a friend watching the Bachelor decided to write a reflection piece on my dating experiences thus far. It was from that, I stared at the numbers realizing I had something here ... something big. I then decided to package it stopping at 103 for branding and marketing purposes. If I had sought out to go out on that many dates from day one I would have either a) burned out or b) lost interest. I was couch surfing at the time, so I was already committed to running this site morning, noon, and night at that point - and this was how I had a social life. I never let guys buy me dinner (too time consuming) but I indicated in my profile that if they bought me a beer, I'd give them a hug. I was TOTALLY transparent through the entire thing even noting that anything the guys said to me may end up on the site.
My role for 2012 is ABSOLUTELY going to transition, as I have learned through working with a dating coach and a shaman that I have personal blocks that I've had to get through ... but I'm putting in the work and getting shit done ... that's all I can really do.
I know now what I like, and what I don't like. I don't get boy crazy very often, I'm just doing my thing and if a guy can keep up - great! If not, coolio Julio, it's all a numbers game.
This isn't a joke, it's my life - and I am very committed to living the SHIT out of it every.single.day.
Actual Response: rad! thanks so much! i actually had a really great date with a guy who i am only 75% with last week - so its making me rethink a lot of things. i did the 103 because i was couch surfing. i got a lot of attention for that and for my life in general, so i had to reel it back a bit. i now am shifting the business to act as an adviser and help dudes out with online dating understanding what works and what doesn't. im just along on the journey! and afterall, isnt that the destination!! =)
be well!!! xoxoxo
Emails like this will never, ever work. I can't begin to tell you how many, "hi, hello, or hiya" emails I get on a daily basis. Take two seconds to actually read my profile, pick out ONE detail, ask me to elaborate - and BOOM! I'll respond. This is pooey, and no one likes poo.
Actual response: None
Note to nerds, when emailing a chica on OKC, make sure you SPELL HER FREAKING NAME RIGHT!!!
It's Jen, one N, no A.
Actual response: None
There ya go nerderinos. Best of luck out there!!!