#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick ... (how to move away from your family)
It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy dudes & dudettes out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.
Here is a question that was emailed to me this week ...
My parents have always been pretty kosher with me going after my goals, or moving. I can say that when I decided to start sleeping in a car, and not having money for a year it created ALL SORTS of tension ... however, my parents knew from the womb that I was a pretty strong willed person, so they just do their best to get out of the way.
I empathize a lot with parents actually; I can't imagine what it is like to raise something and then have to set it free 18 years later. I experience this with my own parents all the time (who are now nagging about wanting grandkids), our animal instincts are tribe oriented, so to ever "let go" of your kids and truly truly truly let them be themselves and be "free" must be a difficult thing (but obviously CRUCIAL to your development).
You have to do you in life, always. It's the oxygen mask philosophy - when the shit is hitting the fan, and the plane is going down ... they tell you to put on your oxygen mask before anyone else's. You can't be the friend, lover, son, daughter, anything to ANYONE until you are something to yourself.
Do what is in your heart, and hold your parents in unconditional love always. It may be hard now, and for that I'm sorry ... but this too shall pass.
That, and when you come to LA totes hit me up! I'd love to kick it!!!
#thatisall
Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com
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