#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (What to do when you're at the peak of dating frustration?)
It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.
Here is a DM I just got on twitter ...
Frustrated with your dating life?
It's cool I've been there before too.
What do you do to break it?
Feed your dating pipeline!!!
When I worked in sales I didn't just "wait" for my phone to ring on Monday morning to set my weekly appointments and hope and pray that one of them closed. I worked my ASS off cold calling, researching any leads, and networked. networked. networked.
How did I do in sales?
I.KICKED.FUCKING.ASS.
I didn't wait for my manager to come around and tell me what to do, or who to call. I didn't wait for a client to maybe want to look for me - I PUT MYSELF OUT THERE!!!
I now take that same mentality to dating.
I get asked out every.single.day. This doesn't make me special, only awesome, and is a testament to the field work that I do. I make a conscious effort to go out a few nights a week with VERY open energy and sit down and just meet people. Whether it's at a party, bar, if I'm in a group or solo I.am.out.there. I'm not sitting by the phone "hoping" and "waiting" for a guy to call. FTR, this whole notion of a prince charming coming to find you is full of shit. Yes, the universe does work in wonderful ways and will present someone to you when you're ready, but FIRST YOU HAVE TO BE READY!!! Like energy is ALWAYS attracting!! That's a universal CONSTANT!!! What are you doing to switch up your energy?!?! This frustration certainly isn't going to help any.
And as far as tonight goes? It's NEW YEARS!!!! The BIGGEST party night of the year!!! Put down that carton of Ben and Jerrys and GET YOUR ASS OUT THERE. Grab a friend and GO!! If no one is available - WHO CARES!!!! Show up at a bar and go and MEET PEOPLE!!!! How do you think I wound up getting to know so many people in Los Angeles? I go to parties solo ALL.THE.TIME!!!
Your life is waiting, and no one is going to ever hand it to you - YOU have to show up and get it.
This is your mission should you choose to accept.
Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com
ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it's within 140 characters on the twitter!
Best of luck out there nerds!!
xoxo <3 @JenFriel
