Fun with #OKCupid: 3 different emails ... 3 different responses
First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received recently, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...
This is a GREAT email. His personality manages to pop out all while staying concise, complimentary, and specific. I can tell this guy read my profile was genuinely interested in messaging me - and did.
He also scores extra brownie points for having a clear shot of his face as his default and a series of photos after it telling the story of his life.
Well done. Well ... well ... done.
Actual Response: Aw, thanks peppermint patty. Yes, actually - during the live show on commercial breaks he "how you doin'ed me" and then afterwards producers gave me (and only me) a signed picture of Bob. It was really weird, but now a cool memento.
Editor's correction: Oh good GOD - this is now the SECOND time in a ROW that someone has quoted one of the movies I mention in my profile and BOTH times it went over my head. Emails on a dating site come flying at you a mile a minute. Very. Very. Very. factual. Even though I'm the one that wrote how much I love the flick and CAN FREAKING QUOTE IT IN MY SLEEP - shit will still take a minute to sink in. Let this be a lesson that this happened AH-GAIN and should be avoided at all costs. Clearly, it doesn't work.
This doesn't work ... at all. I can see why guys would want to be witty to have it act as an icebreaker, but SOOOOO many guys do it on OKC that for a chick it's ... ::yawn::
What would have worked in this email is if the duderino pulled ONNEEEE detail from my profile while asking me to elaborate. Look at the first message - you can FEEL his personality pop out at you while he asks me to elaborate on my experience on The Price is Right. I can tell he's read my profile (DO NOT EVER EVER EVER SEND A GENERIC OKCUPID MESSAGE!!! Women get DOZENS of them a day. DONT BE THAT DUDE!), and genuinely wanting to look to hearing more about me. BOOM! That's it! So sweet so simple. Leave all of this nonsense at the door.
Actual Response: None
This next one really really really intrigued me. His initial message is talking about the RED, YELLOW, or GREEN dot you see on OKC when you go to message someone. A green means that the person replies to everyone. Yellow, replies often - and red mean thats the person replies selectively ...
I fell in the indifferent category. I didn't message this guy back. One, because he doesn't even live in my area (me thinks he reads the site and wanted to say hello) - but mostly because I would have even broken the personality traits down further. Who are the people that are "the pleased?" What do their pictures tell you about them? Their self summary? How is that different than the pictures of "the skeptical" - had there been a bit more of a breakdown I would have been curious to continue the talk ... but frankly, something shinier came along and I moved on.
Fascinating either way, and if anyone does anything else like this please please please message me and let me know what you find. I'm considering doing a social experiment with something similar.
Actual Response: None
There ya go nerderinos. Best of luck out there!!!