#NerdsUnite: Confessions of an Unwed Bride (Nice Guys Finish Last With Me)
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet by buddy Julie! She's my roomie, we met on Craiglist, and she is 1,000 flavors of everything awesome sauce. The reason why she had a room in her apartment however is a mighty long story. See, Julie was dating a duderino for 8 years. Yep, they were engaged to be wed and all that snazzy jazzy stuff. Now the engagement is off and Julie is attempting to heal from her loss; these series of posts are her best attempt. HIT IT JULIE! </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @ItsMeJoolie
Yep. I'm that girl. When did I become this way? Is it because of my ex? I was super intimidated by him (he's very vocal, funny, super confident). I can't recall.
I am such a bitch to guys. I don't know why. I don't think I am a bitch in any other instance of life. But if I am not interested in a guy...I just shut down. The nice part of me just turns off. I will stop answering their text messages. I know that is mean (I swear, I’m going to stop this behavior).
The moment I can 100% tell a guy is in to me, I am no longer interested. I lose all respect for them. Is that a weird self esteem issue or something? You actually like me, so you suck? Or I guess guys aren't the only ones who like the chase.
You guys remember those 3 dates I was publicly challenged to go on? All three of them were totally into me. I totally just stopped responding to all three of their texts. I have no idea why I'm like this.
Date #3, super cool dude. We had plenty in common. What made me want to meet him was one stand out line in his OKC profile. Under 'books' he listed "The Man Inside Me" by Tobias Funke. Sold! I love Arrested Development. Love, love, love it. Our first date together was a good one. We had a cool, witty repoire with one another, too. But I didn't feel a thing towards the guy. I actually really wanted to. He even sent me a link to the Star Trek: Next Generation complete DVD set. How cute is that?!? I go out on one more what the hey OKC date and meet a guy I really like, but I know may not be the best for me. I am instantly and strongly attracted to this guy. I decide in defiance of myself that I need to go out on another date with Date #3. He asks if he can pick me up. At the time since I had pretty much only been on first dates, no dude had picked me up for a date, so this was cool. Plus, I super duper hate driving. So, Point for him! I say okay. As we walk over to his car, I notice his license plate. Something like Lucile2. OMG, another Arrested reference! (I meant to take a picture and ended up forgetting to, damn.) Another Point! He takes me to this really cool place for dinner and pays. Point! We go to the Griffith Observatory and make jokes as we wait for the pendulum to knock over the little blocks. Point! And yet, at the end of the night, I thought about kissing him and just wasn't feeling it. I was very disappointed in myself.
Sooooo, this is dating, huh?
I realized that attraction is something that you can't count on, it just randomly happens. It’s something you can’t plan for or expect even when everything else is lined up perfectly. There have been other nice guys since Date #3 and I just see right through them. The only person this really hurts is me. I am the one who is missing out.
Eh, it’ll work out. My nerdy, yet confident boy who doesn’t come on too strong is out there.
Right?
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