#OMG: The dude that made me cry totally responded back to the post!

Jul 18

WHHAAATTTT is going on here. hahaha omg this is totally turning into a mini soap opera - I don't know how kosher I am with that since I really want to fucking move on from this entire scenario. But, the story is continuing, so I have to go with it ... here's his response to my post. (Click here to read if you haven't yet. My date last night made me cry. Yeah, like for real - tears.)

Alrite, first off, it's not like I did anything "wrong." I know that, my self esteem is pretty rad - so I don't sit there and beat myself up over things. What I am conscious of is the fact that I am 100% attracted to guys in general that aren't either 1. looking for anything serious, or 2. in your case aren't even attracted to me.

I'm not mad at either scenario, but that is the constant that I discovered in the documentation of my life. I will 100% like dudes I can't have. I'm SOOOOOO over that - you have no idea. But I am taking ownership of the fact that maybe that is the reason why I was even attracted to you in the first place. Who knows! I am just making a conscious effort to explore.

You can't have your cake and eat it too when it comes to "letting a girl down." You can't sit there the entire night asking me to open up to you if you weren't feeling something back. Seriously, if you weren't vibing, just shut up!!! STOP ASKING ME HOW I'M FEELING!!! I will interpret that as you wanting validation for something you are feeling, and BAM right there you are setting a false expectation in my noggin which makes the let down THAT much worse. Honestly dude, I wouldn't have taken it personally, and frankly I might not have even written about you on this site had you not asked me in the car, so how did you think this went - followed by my response of, I'd love a second date, to your "Well, I hate rejecting people."

<tangent> DUDESS!! Even on the show Blind Date, at least Rodger Lodge does the asking about that shit. The daters can't do it!!! It's too cold!!! Too too cold!! </tangent>

You're missing a chip, man. That was one of the coldest things anyone has ever said to me. There I am, a closed off person in general, making an effort, and boom I got knocked out. I absolutely would not have said that if I didn't think you were going to say the same. Why the fuck else would I say it??

If you weren't feeling it, don't ask!! Period end of sentence.

Wrong on SOOOOOOOOOOO many levels, and frankly fucked up.

I don't want to be your friend. At all.

You said there was no sexual attraction, which rad, no dirt off my back - but I move on; I'm not friends with people I am attracted to. I am looking to date, looking to have sex, and maybe after a while let something serious develop. I have a lot of friends - I'm not on OKC to meet a new bestie.

I mean what more do you want?? I got hurt - straight to my face ... TWICE, but at least I'm a big enough girl to pull myself back up from being down, and tonight I have another date. Albeit, he came with a warning that I had a SUPER GNARLY bad date the night before. hahaha - so who knows, he's still game, so I am as well.

Want advice? Take our date, and stop questioning everything. Had you not asked me a single question about how things were going, I never would have known. The date was great! I loved the comedy show, dinner - thought I was having fun ... but you being so radically honest, and me being so willing to speak up put us both in something incredibly uncomfortable, and now I am no longer willing to allow this experience in my life.

Be well duderino, but you're a number to me now ... #1 for the worst. date. ever.