#NerdsUnite: Confessions of an Unwed Bride
<editorsnote> Julie Wilson recently endured an agonizing break up with her fiancée after being together for 8 years. She is now in her late 20s and confused about what to do next. These are some of her frustrations, and ways she is attempting to heal from her loss. </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Julie Wilson
So Much Can Happen In One Year
It hasn’t been a whole year yet since the day my life dramatically changed. That day being Halloween 2010, the night I found out the love of my life and the man who I thought was going to be my husband was in love with someone else.
But it has been a year for one thing. My birthday is in a few days. Also, I got my iPhone a year ago. It was a big deal. Everyone in LA has a smart phone. I didn’t for the first year + 4 months that I lived here. I felt very behind the times. And very poor. The iPhone represented finally “arriving”. My ex was 4 months in at his new job, his first job that he could be proud of, converting 2d films into 3D. The job that made all of our struggles worth it (and the job that I would come to loathe as it’s where he met “her”). He was able to buy me the phone for my birthday.
One year ago he picked up my phone (I assume as he was getting ready for work), opened my Notes and wrote me a simple message on July 14, 2010 at 7:33am:
Love you
I woke up alone today, July 14, 2011. Just me and the cat. Didn’t even have the dog to cuddle with, as he’s with him this month.
A year ago this time I was getting ready to celebrate my birthday. I ordered garlic crabs from my favorite restaurant in the world, The Rustic Inn in Fort Lauderdale and was having them shipped allllll the way to California. It ended up costing about $150. Ridiculous. Totally worth it. It was the first time I could afford to do something like that.
We were finally “there”, but little did I know that he was already starting to feel distant from me. If I knew then that “arriving” would also equal our relationship falling apart I would have unpacked and stayed where I was.
Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans - John Lennon
This year I plan on jumping out of a plane. Anything to feel alive on the outside when I feel so dead on the inside.
I wish I could do 28 all over again. But here’s hoping that 29 will be a much better year for me.
#nerdsunite
