#NerdsUnite: Minute Mingle with Meghan Brown
Meghan Brown is a comedic writer based in LA. She has no idea why but her friends always ask her for advice, and instead of letting those gems slip through the cracks, I've decided to give her an advice column. (Have no fear however, she's also going to be providing a weekly nerdy pop culture column as well. The chick has some SERIOUS cred.) Plus, she's hot. That helps ... a lot.
Dear Meghan,
I’m really good friends with three of my ex-boyfriends, and the four of us hang out all the time... which totally freaks out any potential girlfriends they bring around. What can I do to prove to these ladies that we’re all just friends?
-Ex-Lover-Lover
Let’s be real here.
These boys are not your friends.
I can hear you now, screaming inside of my head. But we’re juuuuuust frrrrriends! Oh God, it’s killing me, my ears, they’re bleeding, this is terrible. Please, just be quiet. Please. OK, fine, you’re friends. Whatever you say. You’re so pretty.
See what you did there, ELL? It’s called manipulation, and I’m 90% sure you’re pretty damn good at it.
But maybe you’re so good at it that you’re not even aware of it, in which case you need a wake-up call. Here goes.
When accurately describing whether or not a male companion is “just a friend”, ask yourself the following question: Does this friend want to have sex with you? If the answer is yes, that person is not your friend, that person is a dude who wants to have sex with you. Which is fine! Power to you both. Hanging out with people who want to have sex with you is fun. People who want to have sex with you are great listeners. They laugh at all your jokes. Why wouldn’t you want to hang out with someone who thinks you’re amazing?
Because when wanting to stay in your strange, magnetic orbit leads to your “friends” losing the opportunity to find someone who listens to them and laughs at their jokes... it’s not cute anymore. Your letter gives the impression that this situation is pretty frequent, which means it’s not one crazy jealous girl who can’t stomach your innocent friendship with your exes... it’s a bunch of sane women with enough self-respect to stay away from a toxic situation.
So make some new friends, let the boys off your emotional leash, and see them once a month instead of twice a week. Let them want to have sex with other people. Really. It’s time.
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