#Question: Are you a GUD girl/boy??
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @ShinaRae
In the age of social media, mass transit, constant travel and immediate satisfaction, finding the right mate is a challenge. You almost need an algorithm to do it for you, as Jen has shown us, it helps, but even when we find someone who's emotionally available, what about being physically available? I'm just coming out of love with someone who lives on the opposite side of the country, and I allowed myself to be in love even despite distance b/c what I thought we built was bigger than the distance between us.... I'm learning.
Even with more frequent visits and phone calls throughout the week, he's there in the clubs looking at ass, and I'm here getting looked at like a piece of it, so inevitably somethings got to give.
Apparently the new rule is: Me love you long time.....but not if it takes too long to get to you!!!
I was talking with my friend Randy the other day about life, love & the pursuit of (mental, physical, sexual) happiness.
Randy & I have known each other for, ooooooh about 10+ years, and save a couple of make out sessions in the late teen/early 20's years, we've always been homies. So our convo's get REAL. He's got a new chick (with whom he'd just argued about this subject matter) and I've got a broken heart that I'll attempt to mend thru random dating, so naturally our convo turned to relationships and relative distance in LA.
He brought to my attention this new policy he's enacted when deciding whether or not to date.... He asked "Is she GUD girl?"
What is GUD girl, or guy for that matter?? Well she's/he's something we'll all consider before pursuing a lover from now on, I'm sure.
GUD stands for Geographically Undesirable for Dating, and Randy has it all figured out.
Randy lives in NoHo, so we'll base the theory off of that starting point. Obv anyone in NoHo is applicable and what's more, ideal for dating, but as the circle expands your desirability declines based on distance, and more specifically travel time.
So he broke it down for me, and now I'll do it for all y'all.....
If she lives within:
the immediate vicinity < 3mi: You can call me anytime
NoHo, the Hills or Sherman Oaks. Dating locally is Ideal. We can go to each others place easily, or meet out in the neighborhood. From a drink at HH to a late night bedcheck, it's all possible and that's heavenly. Biking to or sometimes even walking over is possible, and we thus won't waste half the relationship in the car separately. Activities in the back seat are sooo high school. We've gotta get a room sometimes & this way it can be yours or mine. That's chill
3-5 Miles or Just over the Hill for a Hump (according to Randall):
Hollywood, WeHo, Los Feliz & even Burbank are all cool. He says: "it's worth the trip even if you only get some good FroYo out of it" - that's what he said, really.
*side note I hate froyo; bleh, prolly reason numero uno why Randy & I have never formally "dated".
They're close enough that you could, cab or metro it, and you're willing to sacrifice the drive even in traffic for some good ol' one on one. But Silverlake/Echo Park & even Bev. Hills, are a stretch, for him they fall into the next catergory
More than 5 miles: Maybe we can work on making a baby
Downtown, SFV or West LA are iffy and can sway either way (usually the too far away way) based on personality & your tastes. If she's extra hot, she gives amazing foot jobs, she also enjoys your love of nachos & luchadores, you might make the exception, but it's rare.
& finally 7+ miles: Not worth the wait!!
Whether it's Santa Monica or Emerald Isle Sexting & chatting on skype is cool for a while, but eventually I'm gonna want to see you in person and make out with your face so unless this girl is giving you the ultimate bj's or you're looking to have a weekend beach house or one in the hills to kick it at, this booty is just too far to fetch!!
I love it, and will be implementing it into my life immediately!!
#noturlovergirl
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