#NerdsUnite: How To Know If You Are Incompatible With Someone

Talk Nerdy To Me’s: @StaffWriter

Not everyone you meet on a dating app or in the real world is your soulmate. You don't find your twin flame at every bar, club, or meet-cute. Sometimes, you are simply incompatible with someone else.

It's not always crystal clear at the beginning of a relationship.

You might go weeks, months, or years without realizing your incompatibility. To save you time, keep reading to learn how to know if you are incompatible with someone.

Your Personalities Are Too Different

There is no need to try and force yourself to like someone whose personality type is completely opposite of yours. If you want to watch Netflix alone every night, don't expect your partner to be okay with that or vice versa if your partner wants an extremely social relationship. If something feels off from the very beginning, it's likely a sign that you two aren't compatible with each other.

You Find More Things Wrong With Them Than Right

If they make a mistake, do you first laugh together about it? Or do you immediately begin criticizing them for their actions? Of course, everyone makes mistakes sometimes, but if you find yourself always finding more negatives rather than positives, that may be a sign of incompatibility.

Surprisingly, you don't look forward to seeing the person.

You're Not Excited To See Them

If you can't seem to get enough of them and crave your next encounter, then you might be compatible with each other. However, if they become an obligation you feel as though you need to fulfill before relaxing for the night or day, then it might be better to part ways now so neither one of you has wasted time on someone incompatible with them. It's not fair to either party involved.

When You Argue More Than Smile and Laugh Together

Everyone argues sometimes and it's usually not a problem when both parties just let it go eventually. However, if you two argue all the time and don't makeup with one another by laughing or smiling after a disagreement, then that might be an issue as well as incompatibility.

You Skip Dates and Dates Become A Chore

You should always look forward to seeing someone you're compatible with rather than avoiding them at times because of your own personal reasons. If you find yourself skipping dates and dreading the idea of meeting up with someone, it's probably due to incompatible personalities and interests. You can't force yourself to like someone just because they like you too.   

You Find Yourself Always Making Excuses To Leave

You shouldn't feel the need to sneak in your phone when you're with someone you like. You should be able to enjoy their company and not make excuses to leave or start another task that will take away from your time together. If they do anything that makes you want to leave, then this is a sign of incompatibility.

You Have Met Their Family But They Haven't Met Yours

If you've met their family and they haven't brought you to yours, there's a reason. You may believe it's because of time restraints but if they're truly interested in you, then they will at least try to meet your family eventually. This is one way you can tell if the two of you are compatible, or not.

You Don't Fight Fair With Them

A perfect relationship is one where the couple fights fairly and learns from their mistakes. However, if you never fight fairly with each other and always blame them for your mistakes, then you're likely too incompatible with each other to last. No one is perfect and the key is to love them regardless of their flaws.

You Don't Feel Orgasmic With Them

Physical intimacy varies from person to person, but if you feel dissatisfied after spending time alone together, then this might be due to incompatible body chemistry. It's impossible for someone who can't meet your physical needs as well as emotional ones to be compatible with you. Physical disconnection is another way an incompatibility between the two of you can break the connection quickly.

If You Can Tell They Are Holding Back

Why are they keeping you hidden? If they are doing something to keep you away from their friends or family, they might be trying to keep you a secret for a reason. If it is because they don't want them to see you and meet you yet, this is an indicator of incompatibility. It's not fair for either of you if one of you has feelings that aren't reciprocated by the other.

If You Are Excited To Leave After The First Date

It may seem like just another sign, but your first date really is important in determining compatibility with someone new. If they're not giving what you need on the first date, then how will they ever follow through after several dates together? Compatible couples know each other well enough after meeting once or twice to know whether there will be a future and, if so, what the relationship will look like.

If You Haven't Had a Good Laugh With Them Yet

Sparks fly when you first meet someone, but if they can’t make you laugh or smile within a few weeks, you're likely too incompatible with each other for a real connection. Being with someone and not having fun and laughing with them is like watching TV with a 

If You Just Feel Off With Them For No Reason

There can be compatibility issues within relationships that aren't obvious at first, such as how the two of you communicate and connect on an emotional level. If you feel off around them no matter what you do, then this is a sign that they might not be compatible with your personality and lifestyle after all. Feeling incomplete in the company of someone indicates more incompatibility than one may think.

Final Thoughts

Trust your gut, and never settle.