#RealDeal: The worst thing I've ever said to a woman
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Brandon Bradford
(Parents- Mother in particular. Please don't read this)
I was recently asked about a failure I had and why I don't write about those. Honestly, it never occurred to me. Here goes modesty, and here goes my ego ...
::cue scene::
I'm not an angry person. Everyone has their kryptonite, and this girl in particular was mine. We meant well, but we were just terrible for each other.
Let's call her "Pedestal."
Pedestal and I had been broken up for about a year, attempting to be good friends I invite her and her new bf
(6'6 guy, played college bball) to come by for a drink sometime at the bar I was running.
9:00pm Pedestal and OG (OtherGuy) come in. I'm busy running around, grab them drinks, continue working.
9:08pm I'm talking to a group of girls at a table, serving them bday drinks. Pedestal walks up, "Are you just going to talk to these sluts all night?" Understandably confused, I apologize to the table, pull her to the side and ask what's going on. "oh, nothing" she says, then walks back to OG. I'm busy, I continue working.
9:20pm OG pulls me to the side, ask me to "stop being that guy, he doesn't want to have to talk to me again". I kindly informed him that I was the smallest boy in my family and if need be I would show him how exposed his neck and knees were ( I believe the actual quote was "I will F*ck your shit up). We move past niceties, and get to the point that I have no idea what's going on. OG is equally confused after we talk. We form a temporary truce, I continue working.
9:35pm Pedestal approaches me "What the fuck Brandon?" Me- "I don't know what's wrong, but if you didn't want to see me, don't come to my work." She-"Whatever", and walks off.
If you don't know, saying "whatever" while in an argument with a significant other is a passive aggressive verbal middle finger.
9:50pm Pedestal approaches me at a table, again. Insults an entire group of people she doesn't know, again. I pull her over to where OG is standing and ask what the hell is going on. Blank stares come back in response. Perfect. I go back to work.
10:30pm I am walking the new cocktail waitress through the new section changes. Pedestal walks up and pours her entire drink over the poor girl. Ranting and raving, not saying anything that made sense still.
OG is standing behind her, useless. I lose my temper and start to kick them out. Pedestal makes a jab at the girl she just poured a drink on, I respond with ...
"Just because you are a stadium tunnel,"
Pedestal-"Stadium tunnel?"
I looked at OG, "All you do is get run through by athletes!"
::back to real time::
.......There is no recovery from that. Though at the time it may seem justified, be careful when ripping out a potential future with people you care about. Even though there was some obvious emotional attachment at the time, the friend that I lost as of that day wasn't worth having the last word.