#NerdsUnite: Get Your Mojo Working For You

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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

Mojo has a few different meanings, but at its core it was attracting women with confidence, charm, and even magic! Some say it was the idea to have power over someone sexually or the ability to be charming in an influential way when needed.

Muddy Waters wrote and recorded a song about his Mojo in 1957. In the song he sings about “getting it working” for him–almost describing it as a charm or mood where his luck and life is in perfect harmony–where he can do no wrong.

Being described as a dark magic power that could stem from hoodoo. Someone could also be stricken with Bad Mojo or given Good Mojo from a witch doctor. The word attraction in a thesaurus can be linked to witchery and magic. It seems every time in life when we humans don’t understand certain things, we will throw magic or some outside force into the picture as a way of explaining the situation.

Blues musicians were thought to control the libido of women listening to their music!

Like snake charmers the women would dance to the music in a sexual way, driven by the music she would be taken over and lose control. Any of you guys that have seen those old Beatles clips with the girls screaming their heads off and passing out can understand how someone could possibly think people could be under a spell! Push any person’s emotions that high up through the roof and you could achieve the same effect.

Mojo can also be described in the context of self-confidence as “inner game”. That elusive feeling of being in charge of what we need to do, without looking to others for permission. I feel a lot of people ignore the inner game stuff to a point because it is really hard to understand what exactly it is!

I remember when I first heard the term “inner game”…

I was sure it had to do with confidence. What I didn’t know at the time was there are two types of confidence: External and Internal.

External confidence is supplied from things such as a good job, awesome car or having a bunch of money.

Internal confidence comes from your beliefs about yourself–who you are and what you can do. There are not many people in the world that would admit they have no real confidence.

Every culture has their version of what Mojo is. That special power that we use to attract the opposite sex. Moxie is another word that has been thrown around as well. It’s having courage and guts and perhaps a bit of bravado… Though, we always have to watch ourselves that we do not become consumed by our own egos.

You cannot have victory if you if you do not have defeat.

They are always very close to each other. Knowing that and being ok with learning everyday can keep yourself humble and avoid humiliation.

The reason I bring this up is to show just how important this is throughout history. The notion of this inner confidence coming up over and over as the main driving forces behind attraction is just outstanding. Thinking you can achieve success without going through the pains of rediscovering and accepting who you are is out of the question. You could end up questioning your foundation on a daily basis only making you worse off. You want to spend time building a strong you, something nobody can knock down, the immovable object.

It is time to get your Mojo together.

Unfortunately, we understand that a magic spell, potion or charm is not going to help us with it. We need time to go introspective and find out who we really are and embrace those qualities that are special to us. Take steps in getting comfortable and learn The Art of Charm.

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Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert.  He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company, as well as the co-host of 'Go Legendary', a men's lifestyle & social dynamics talk show.  If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm Team, then visit http://www.theartofcharm.com