#NerdsUnite: My Short Cummings

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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho

Call me a two-pump-chump, a minute man or a bad lover, I used to cum way too fast. Far too many times I remember entering the bedroom with a girl knowing that I was about to blast within 30 seconds of penetration. It turns what should be a great experience into an embarrassing and stressful disappointment.

You start getting chubbed up and the voice in the back of your head tells you this is going to end quick. The more aroused you get the more you can feel the sensitivity brewing in your pants. As you start to make out the voice in your head gets louder and louder. You try and enjoy yourself and continue kissing. Her breasts are no longer contained by her blouse and your belt has come undone. You reach down her pants first to avoid having her touch you and end things before they even start, but eventually she wants to see what you’re rockin’. Her hand reaches on the inside of your belt line and grips you. Your head is now screaming with pleas of mercy, “Please let me last, please let me last, you can do this, just hold on...” Finally the condom is pulled out and you put it on. You still feel that extreme sensitivity and your head hasn’t stopped running a mile a minute. She has no idea what kind of battle you’ve been fighting this whole time and just wants to have an amazing experience with you, and worst of all you know this. She lays on her back and looks you in the eyes. You crawl on top, grab yourself and get prepared for insertion. You know there’s no hope and sure enough you’ve came right at the point of entry. You try and keep going but your hard-on is quickly lost and her smiling face has now changed to disappointment. Sound familiar?

I know how it feels and the last thing you want is to make a bad first impression after you’ve come so far with a girl. The more physically and sexually attracted you are to the girl the more inclined you may be to blast to fast. The bad news is that there is no quick fix, no pill, no cream. The good news is that you can absolutely become better at controlling yourself and you don’t have to think about Grandma, you actually need to enjoy yourself more. Although most women will be somewhat understanding of your short cummings, every woman will fall for you that much more if you are great in bed. Below I will lay out some quick tips I greatly recommend buying a subscription to orgasmmastery.com it has saved my night quite a few times and is very inexpensive.

5 Quick Tips: (no pun intended)

1. Don’t masturbate when in a rush. You are training your body to finish quick. Take your time and enjoy yourself
2. Do perineum exercises 3 times a day. What the fuck is a perineum? Put your fingers on your gooch, flex the muscle that you use to clip off a poop, finish peeing, or make your boner bounce etc. Your perineum is what you feel flex and bulge when you perform these actions. It’s a muscle like any other in your body so strengthen it, it controls the flood gates. The nice part about these exercises is you can literally do them anywhere and no one will have any idea.
   
   1. Exercise 1: Flex and hold as long as you can. Repeat until fatigued.
   2. Exercise 2: Rapidly tense and release. Repeat until fatigued
   3. Exercise 3: Tense for three seconds and relax for one. Repeat until fatigued
   4. Exercise 4: Make up your own shit and have fun with it ;)
3. Three times a day at heightened moments of stress or tensity stop and meditate. You don’t need to pull out a yoga mat or start to chant. Take ten deep breaths (10 seconds in, 10 seconds out), breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. Imagine the breath coming in as a white cloud and tell yourself  “Relax” and imagine your breath out as a black cloud filled with your negative emotions. When the black cloud leaves it takes the toxins with it. With every breath imagine that the white cloud is taking over more and more of your body. Controlling your breathing greatly affects your ability to wrangle out of control arousal. I still do this all the time because it feels so good
4. Turn off the porn and touch yourself more. The next time you masturbate use one hand to stroke yourself and the other to feel around. Experience the awesomeness of being touched. The goal here is that you learn to experience sex through your whole body and not just with your dick. The next time you are having sex focus more on her hands grazing your back then your p in her v.
5. When you are masturbating practice getting as close to cumming as possible without actually cumming. You won’t win sometimes but better by yourself than with a partner and this is pretty much the most fun game ever. If you do accidentally cum before you wanted DO NOT beat yourself up. It’s all good man. It’s all good.

#thatisall

If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com

SAVE THE DATE: On August 11th Jen and I will be holding a social dynamics workshop that will include field work! Details to be announced on Monday.