#NerdsUnite: Are you making people smile?

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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

Smiling is one of the basic fundamentals of a happy life. Putting a smile on someone’s face is one of the easiest things that you can do as a part of your everyday routine. It’s funny how the littlest things can have the biggest affects in your life. If you can wake up every day and make people smile, the battle is half over. You have achieved some social value.

It has been proven that smiling projects the same emotion in every culture. You cannot be angry and be smiling at the same time. Try it some time. You will most likely find that even the act of smiling while angry, can make you feel happier. You can influence how you feel by controlling your body, and vise versa. Therefore, if you smile, you will begin to feel good, and if you feel good, you will begin to smile. It’s very infectious. You can make others smile just by shooting a quick little smirk. Since it’s contagious, you are actually making others feel good by showing your pearly whites! You will be spreading good vibes throughout your daily journey. If you make someone feel good while they are in their normal daily routine, the good feelings you brought to them will be attached to you. The next time they see you, they will feel good even if they can’t remember why.

It’s not just the mouth that makes a smile successful. It’s the whole face. Have you heard of the expression, “Smiling with your eyes?” When you are really happy and have a huge smile on your face, you get little crinkles around your eyes. A great grin also makes everyone appear more youthful, attractive and healthy. I have seen studies that state that we can become at least 10 times more attractive when we smile. If you want meeting people to be easy, why put people on the defensive right from the beginning? Would you want to approach and talk to someone who looks sad, grim, or pissed off? I sure wouldn’t! In a perfect world, you would be able to spread cheer to everyone. This really isn’t the case. If you are trying to make someone’s day but they are just not having it, move on. You will just have to make someone else’s day!

Here is a quote that best sums up the benefits of smiling:

“A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.”  ~Author Unknown

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Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert.  He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company, as well as the co-host of 'Go Legendary', a men's lifestyle & social dynamics talk show.  If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm Team, then visit http://www.theartofcharm.com

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