#NerdsUnite: Tales of a Pick Up Artist (Finding your perfect 10)
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Anwar. We met in Florida last year, and it was because of him that I got to go out on a date with Steve Ward. True story - Anwar tweeted about Steve's Ustream broadcast, and that's where I asked him out. That shit cray! He's a rad mofo, and active in the pick up artist community (PUA) and wants to share his tips and tricks with you today. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT ANWAR!! </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @AJonesPUA
As a PUA, I had grown accustomed to rating women on a system from 1 to 10.
What society describes as a perfect 10: beautiful from head to toe, completely flawless from the external point of view. Many men think this kind of woman is the key to their happiness.
In high school, I had a crush on a girl who by definition everyone thought wasn't attractive. I didn't care, my interest in her was simply because of my perception of what beauty was at the time. She had a warm presence, positive, talented, and sexy by my definition.
Here's what makes your "Perfect 10": Someone you're completely infatuated with, the person who's amazing, sexy, and overall the quality person you're looking for. Otherwise, the gap of unsatisfactory will be created between the both of you.
What marks the end of most relationships is when one person begins to demote the value of the person they're with.
Are you with her because when you walk into the bar he/she turns heads and makes the record skip? Are you with her because your friends oust you otherwise? Let's be real, in most relationships... your friends can have a kinetic effect on your dating. Your choices, the quality, and decisions are made cause we want this person we're with to be accepted by the people we love. My message to you, is for once not to care, choose your partner by your means of attraction and not look for the external validation of your peers!
Of course they'll give you every reason to why you shouldn't be with them. I'll only listen to those who are close to me on that issue. What matters is only what you think, how this person brings value to your life and the connection you feel towards them.
What are you out to prove?
Nothing, should be the answer. Your perfect 10 will be someone who everyone in your life likes organically. This admiration will come natural, it will be just feeling. People will say things like, "You guys look good together" or "You two have great physical chemistry". Stop letting outside influences take toll on your perception. Get back to satisfying yourself when you date, always ask yourself? Is this person adding value to my life? Do they have the beauty inside and out that I want in a person?
Men and women alike, the key to finding your perfect 10, simply put... requires some searching. If the person you’re with now doesn't qualify. Eliminate them from contention. Simple as THAT!!! Find someone that feels good to you and only on YOUR terms!