#Question: Is it considered cheating if it's girl on girl?

Mar 31

So, I just got a message on Facebook from the one ... the only ... Mr. Smith - inviting me out to kick it for a mutual friend's bday tonight.

Some of you may remember Mr. and Mrs. Smith from a few months ago and our SEVERE hanky panky that was just all shades of everything yummy, but very much unfinished.

Now, obviously tonight is going to be more clubbing and more of a hotel after hours - so we're not going to have a threesome since Mr. Smith prefers more privacy, BUUUUTTT I will guarantee you there will be some solid girl on girl make out opportunities. See, these peeps travel with quite the group - and they're ALL friggen gorgeous. Dudes, I had my first threeway kiss, all girls, with this crew. I'd genuinely be more surprised if this didn't end with an orgy (hopefully though sans all puppets).

My problem with all of this though is the fact that I've actually been dating someone for a hot minute. We're not BF/GF - he's just been a good friend for a few months, and we've recently stepped things up a bit. What's cool with this dude is he's also big in the nerd culture ANNNDDDD is also a public figure - so a lot of the shit that freaks dudes out about me he can do in return with HIS audience. It's fan-fucking-tastic and one of the most organic things that has happened to me recently. (PS. bonus points for him for living out so many fantasies already ANNNDD for being open to some really fucking kinky shit. WINNING!)

Either way, I don't want to fuck anything with this dude up ... clearly I'm not going to be having sex with anyone (male or female), but this situation does raise a pretty solid debate on cheating; if it is girl on girl is it ACTUALLY considered cheating??

I feel like it is. I don't want to kiss anyone else but him - I DEFINITELY don't want to/nor have I had sex with anyone but him ... but when the lines of sexuality fundamentally are all so blurred it can be so confusing.

What are your thoughts? If you are in a relationship (which again, I'm not) if you go to an event or party like this and make out with someone of the same sex ...

1) do you tell your partner?

2) is it considered cheating?

super curious on your thoughts!!