Fun with #OkCupid: A dude in the OKC corral (Do Any Girls Really Want a Nice Guy)

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To say that I finished last would imply that I finished.

If you're a woman reading this, I only have one question: Do you actually mean that shit when you say that you want a nice guy and only "little girls" want bad boys?  Look, I know that you don't want a pussy, but what about a guy that's a gentleman?  A man that will do nice things for you and compliment you and take care of you?  He's not going to ever hit you, or mentally abuse you, or play games with you and tell you that you're ugly so that it lowers your self-esteem enough to sleep with him.

(Also, if you're my mom and you're reading this... ehhh... maybe skip this article. :) love you!)  

When I date someone that has been in abusive relationships in the past I can't help but think "She's not going to be interested in me, I'm too nice."  That's not because she's intentionally seeking dickheads, I'm sure every conscious feeling in her body is telling her to find a guy that will treat her how she deserves to be treated, but underneath all of that I believe that people become used to certain aspects of relationships.  Some asshole has made her believe that she's not worth a damn and so she distrusts me when I tell her that she is.

I've seen it a bunch of times because I somehow have dated many girls with abusive relationships in the past.  We don't end up dating for very long.

I have to admit that part of me is attracted to females that are a little broken inside because I want to help put the pieces back together.  I don't pretend that I don't have a couple of broken shards of glass in my heart either and maybe that helps ease the pressure to be "normal" for anyone.  I confess that more than once I have seen a really cute girl on Intervention and thought "Yeah, I would date her.  I could do it.  She's so pretty and I could help her get back to a regular life and quit this addiction."

Although, I don't think I've ever watched My Strange Addiction and thought "Yeah, I would date that girl that eats cigarette ashes."  A bit too much for me to handle.

I know some men could read this and say "Being a nice guy will get you nowhere with women" but I am what I am.  I have set a course and I am okay with staying on that course because a leopard can't change his spots and I can't change my "Hang in There" kitty screensaver.  I am nice.  I'm not a "pussy" and I don't even have the strongest morals, but I'll treat every woman with respect.  The only question I have is: Where are all the women that want that?  The guys that tell me that I will "Get nowhere" with this attitude have so far hit the nail on the head.  Isn't that a bit crazy?

It's so damn crazy and backwards and messed up that I am wildly attracted to it.

Here are the Pros and Cons of being a nice guy:

PROS

People generally like me.  I'm like How I Met Your Mother, but a guy. 

I've only been in one fistfight in my life. 

My life is pretty stress-free because I have a sunny disposition and a positive outlook about the future. 

I'm very trusting of other people.

CONS

People generally like me but people don't generally "fall in love with me."  Probably because they know I'll still be nice to them if they don't.  I'm like a great TV show that could be cancelled because not enough people watch and spread the gospel.  (Community) 

I swung and missed in that fistfight. 

My sunny disposition can lead to complacency and procrastination. 

I'm very trusting of other people. 

Far fewer blowjobs received than what "jerks" will get.

(On that note, I am amazed at how many girls I've gone out with that describe themselves as.... well, lets just say "promiscuous" because I'm far too nice to say that they described themselves as sluts... at how many of them that I've gone out with and then been shut down upon request for entry.  Why are you hanging a sign in the window that says "Free Handjobs" and then when I get inside your store you say you're all out of Free Handjobs?  Oh yeah, because I'm so nice that you know I'll still buy a bumpersticker that says "Honk If You're Horny")

Anyways, I can do my own handjobs for awhile and stick to being a nice guy because my positive outlook on life tells me that one day it will pay off.  For a long time I've sort of stared at my mid-30s and said "That's when I'll do it.  That's when I'll get married and start to have a family and that's okay.  I can wait and I know that when I get there, it will be all worth it because when I'm older and I have my career going strong and it will be the right time anyway."

I sort of picture it that way and that sounds just fine to me.  Don't worry about the details right now, just continue to be a nice guy and let the pieces fall into place.  I don't need to be a "player" nor do I need to "crush a lot" because I've made it 29 years by being a gentleman that can smile and laugh at anything.  Including myself.  I've become very good at entertaining myself.  (Okay, now that sounds really sad.  It's not like I am super lonely.  I have friends!)

So what's up ladies?  Do you want a nice guy or does your heart always push ahead of your head and gravitate towards the assholes?  Do you really want to have sex with Michael Cera or do you really just want to sit around and read comic books with him?

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