#NerdsUnite: A year end wrap and a change in dating pace

Dec 13

No not that kinda rap.

Although I do love this song. NINJA ... NINJA ... RAP!!!!

God, they don't make music like this anymore ... sigh.

Alrite, so I've had a really introspective week from all of these meetings with fancy pants people trying to understand me and understand what it is that I do. One of them in particular was this super smarty pants producer who pointed out that even though I live my life in a very public manner, it is still all online which no matter what places a very visible wall between me and the rest of the world. It is only the perception of vulnerability that I represent. For me to be truly vulnerable I have to remove all of my digital layers in meeting someone and be truly "vulnerable" by any literal definition of the word. Sans the walls, sans the profiles, sans the homepages. Just me man, you woman. Let's make whoopie.

Such an ah-ha moment.

Then, at another meeting, I sat with two Jewish duderinos who kept telling me over and over that I just need to meet a good Jewish boy. I then piped up saying, but I've ONLY dated Jewish guys!!!!!!

True story ... Romeo? Jewish. Noah? Jewish. I don't think Antonio was Jewish come to think of it, but I've also worked at a Jewish day camp, a Jewish day care, grew up in an all Jewish town, worked at the LA kosher restaurant the Milk and Honey, AND have dated both an Israeli and a rabbi's son. I love love love Jewish guys. They're so focused on business, making money, being frugal, and working a hustle!!! Sound familiar? I survived with only $10 for a friggen year, and am TO THIS DAY the most frugal person I know. Me and Jewish dudes go together like coconut milk and hangovers. We're totes besties!

That being said, for at least the next 6 months, I am no longer going to be online dating I am instead going to start attending Jewish Singles Mixers AND I just joined a gym in the hopes of also potentially meeting someone there. All the Jewish dudes I've ever dated were super super into fitness and health, so the gym component kills two birds with one stone - BUT instead of just going to "any" gym, I am signing up for a super posh one that potentially more Jewish dudes would be attracted to. I used to use LA fitness in my early 20s, but as I got older I started using specialty gyms. Sure they were more expensive, but the people that would psychologically choose those gyms are the ones I want to deal with!! I don't want a guy that has a super traditional 9-5 that he hates while he works on his acting/ writing/ directing career. I'm deliriously in love with what I get to do everyday and develop the business around, I can't feel comfortable talking about the awesomeness of the day in front of someone who hated their day. I won't rule out dating a creative type but I prefer more business minded people. I may not have been capitalistic in the past but that was merely to prove something to myself. I'm not going to be a starving artist anymore (and this next year in general the brand will focus around luxury and creating abundance).

ALSO!!! I have become a MEAN cook. I made this super yummy ground turkey, jalapeno, mixed veggie, salsa and pasta dish earlier this week.

UUGGGHHH so good and super healthy!!!

So that crosses off being able to cook for a duderino as well.

I'm not looking to be this "placeholder" for the definition of a wife. I'm extremely opinionated and want a partner in crime. I want someone that kicks my ass, tells me I'm being an idiot, and someone that I get to share this ridiculously insane life with (and who also provides balance. I can't date someone equally insane or I'll end up locked in jail in a 3rd world country).

Oh, and for the whole not being Jewish thing? When it comes to having kids in the Jewish religion it's actually dependent upon the mother, and if I do genuinely end up settling down with a Jewish guy I'd have no problem becoming Jewish for him. I wouldn't be a practicing Jew since I don't believe in organized religion at all, however, I do want my kids to have religion of some kind since it provides boundaries and peace of mind for kids. Explaining the concept of atheism and the general "lack" of a higher power I'm sure is super scary for kids and I wouldn't want that.

So, that's my story and I'm sticking to it. This is either the smartest or dumbest thing I've ever done ... but watch out single Jewish LA dudes. Friel is coming for ya!!!! =)

HA, that sounded naughty ... shut up Jen.

K. bai!