#RealDeal: So, My Date Got Drugged ...
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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
I've heard plenty of stories about girls getting drugged but I've never had a first-hand encounter until Sunday. I had just met the girl during Jen and I's first Workshop #2, which was phenomenal. The guys did so well; one got the bartenders phone number and another, who's the quintessential nerd and not the modern hipper version, had a girl buy an unsolicited drink for him. Since he was brave enough to share with us that he had literally zero friends I knew how much that drink meant to him. The smile on his face really said it all.
<tangent>The guy who got the bartenders phone number is a first generation immigrant from India and computer science major. Prior to taking our workshop he had a total of four dates for the whole year, and since taking our workshop he's had over twenty. Just goes to show that common knowledge and stereotypes are illusory, anyone can do this.</tangent>
I met the girl for drinks in West LA on Sunday. The date was starting out awesome. I found out she's bisexual-I love women who love women-and she's soooo fun. We left our drinks and stepped outside for a cigarette. Turns out this was a bad idea, cause I'm about positive that this is when her drink was drugged. While outside she challenged me to a game of penis, you know the one where each person says penis louder than the next until someone gets uncomfortable. At the climax of us both shouting penis at the top of our lungs a couple guys at the coffee bean across the street joined in. They then shouted back, "Does she want your penis?" I looked back at her for an answer and she smiled and nodded yes, #sweetness. After we finished our drinks, and now in an adventurous mood, we felt it was time for a change of scenery. We hopped a cab to Santa Monica where my friends host a regular karaoke night. We took a few shots at the bar and stepped out to the patio. At the time, I thought she was just getting drunk quickly as we started to make out. She kept pulling me back, giving me the sexy eyes and then grinding her forehead into my face. She was wearing extensions that night and the clips were starting to fall out leaving chunks of hair dangling sloppily off her head. It was pretty funny before I found out it was the drugs. After seeing that she was pretty inebriated, and since it was getting late, I grabbed her a cab and sent her home.
Turns out that when she got back she couldn't make it to her front door and was paralyzed on the front lawn. I received a few straight forward texts in response to me requesting a confirmation that she got home ok. It turns out that those texts were from the cops that had been called in response to her yelling for her mom from the front lawn. She was piss tested and t confirmed that she had indeed been drugged.
I woke up the next morning to texts from her telling me about her experience after leaving me and had mixed feelings. I felt violated and slightly ashamed for my responsibility in not taking basic precautions for her safety. I felt bad for thinking her drunkenness, as I thought it was at the time, was pretty funny. Mostly though I was relieved that she got home safely because the night could have ended much much worse. Protect yourself ladies, we were at a relatively posh bar and both of us were surprised that it happened there.
That's all for now friends.
In other news, I'M LOOKING FOR AN INTERN...
You'll be working directly with me to develop our social dynamics workshops. It's a non-paid internship but the perks will make this perfect for the right person. You'll have the option to work at my office near Abbott Kinney and Venice beach or from home (some days will require you to be in Venice), access to all the workshop materials, free admittance to all three workshops, and personal coaching from me. The hours are flexible as I work almost all the time. The work will consist of helping me develop the workshop course materials mostly but there will be more work after. I'm looking for someone with the ability to write with good grammar and access to a laptop is required; it would be preferred that you had some basic photoshop skills and understanding of Wordpress. You do not need any knowledge of social dynamics, just a great attitude and desire to learn.
#thatisall
If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com