#NerdsUnite: The Gospel According to John (to trim or not to trim? that is the question)
<editorsnote> Nerds, you may already know my buddy John as "Confessions of a Video Game Journalist" but what you DON'T know el senor John is that not only does he also help out as TNTML's intern, he is hands down one of the wisest people I have ever met. For reals, you need to grab a beer with this guy at some point in your life. The things that come out of his mouth ... wowzah! I decided he needs a special column devoted to his wisdom - and now here it is. The gospel according to John. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT JOHN !!</editorsnote>
Question this week: Does pubic hair really matter to men and if so what is the preferred grooming method?
This…is a dicey question for every male to answer because it’s such a two-way street when it comes to this kind of thing. A guy can’t really ask for a specific thing or style here without offering to do the same for his partner, or vice versa so this relies heavily on communication.
I know a lot of guys who want the completely shaven look, partially because of the porn industry and it’s fascination with the fad. They may have their own reasons but that’s their business. I find several problems arise when this is the preferred method for the man in the relationship.
I know many girls who feel like having the completely shaven look makes them feel like they’re a little girl and not a woman, and it unnerves them to think that a grown man could want that. I can understand that feeling. I’m also sure that, if they don’t feel that particular way about it, it’s a lot of work and also probably painful for some.
Then we get into the wonderful world of style in this area and quite frankly I can’t take this question serious enough to describe each and every style of grooming down there. Suffice it to say that if you’re really interested in learning about this, there’s the wide world of the internet to inform you on all of the lovely styles.
I’ve heard dozens of guys complain about doing it themselves for their own personal preference. The most colloquial term is “trimming the banzai tree” which I find hilarious and probably apt for anybody doing this sort of thing. So, I get it, doing this sort of thing is a long process, it’s hard to do and often times painful.
I’m going to be honest with you; this is an entirely subjective subject to personal preference between both parties. What I am going to say is you should really talk about this thing if it is a huge deal for you. If what is going on down there is so distracting to you that you can’t do your business, maybe you’re focusing on the wrong thing?
Regardless, it really shouldn’t matter what’s going on down there. Think about it. We probably only started doing something like this because someone somewhere got self-conscious about how they looked and decided to change it up. Just like Adam and Eve putting on clothes.
If you feel weird or feel like your business is not the best looking thing, that’s on you and you can do whatever you want to it. It’s your body. If you’re doing something because your partner told you to do it, then that might not be the best reason.
However, if you don’t have a problem shaving down there or grooming down there, then by all means, do something that your partner likes or that you feel comfortable with. It’s just like doing your hair or putting on make-up if you think about it. Just remember that it is your body and you can choose to do with it what you will.
There is no preferred method, there is no right way to g0 about it and there is no law or rule for this. There’s a flavor of ice cream for each person and there’s the kind of ice cream that people feel good about scooping out. You just got to find the right person who will scoop your flavor, if that makes sense to you.
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