#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick ... (is oral sex a relationship prerequisite?)

Jan 2

It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy dudes out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.

Here is a question I just got on Facebook ...

This question was asked from a guy - so I am going to assume he is asking about going down on a girl - but I will provide an answer for both.

Honestly, yeah. Both The Mentalist and Noah had a weird thing about not wanting to go down on me, but pretty much every other guy I've ever dated has loved it. Some guys for whatever reason really aren't into going down on a girl - and I'm not gonna lie from the female perspective it fucking sucks.

A girl going down on a dude is pretty much a no brainer. Some of my girlfriends will only do it if they are in a relationship, but I follow the rule of - you get what you give. If I go down on a guy I expect him to go down on me.

Period end of sentence.

Oral sex on a female is a tricky tricky thing. I've only ever come once from strictly oral stimulation. It's just not enough for me. The root of the female orgasm in general is stored in emotion not mechanics so I have to genuinely feel a connection with the guy, and then from there it's also rooted in how hormonally charged I happen to be. I am SUPER horny the week and some change before my period (as all females are. Evolution baby!) - so you take the timing of that, and add in oral sex - and I am a happy camper.

As far as dudes not liking oral sex or whatever reason guys have for not wanting to go down on a girl - I dunno. Noah and I talked about it because frankly I thought it was weird as he was the first guy to tell me he was grossed out by it - but then we tried it in the shower a few times which made him feel more comfortable. If you're nervous about going down on a chick just tell your partner - but to answer the question - yes, IMHO it is a relationship prerequisite on BOTH parts.

You get what you give, baby! =)