Fun with #OKCupid: 3 emails ... 3 different responses
First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received in the last 48 hours, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...
Holy moly this one is just sad. Lemme explain this to you all again ... GENERIC. EMAILS. DO. NOT. WORK.
At all, and or what so ever.
I am very sorry men that the odds on this site are stacked in your favor, and yes, you are going to have to put some effort into things, but I assure you - we are worth it.
For reals, just take ONE item from a chick's profile and ask her to elaborate on that. You don't even have to go into anything deep. Take my profile for example - I say one of the things I can't live without is my Macbook Pro. Maybe you can ask what operating system I run off of. Something along those lines - you get the idea.
Doesn't have to be a long email but to get a response, it DOES have to be specific.
Actual Response: None
HAHA I used to get mad when dudes would say "oh I'm not hitting on you" or "I don't want to go out with you, I just want to pick your brain" - now I'm just flattered.
Actual Response: I don't think there was anything "wrong" - I'm just learning about what I like and what I don't. It's a numbers game; I am just actively showing up for life everyday and exploring who/what is out there. I had a lot of really really really great dates, it just didn't work out for one reason or another. No hurt feelings. =)
Actual Response: I didn't go out with anyone less than 85%, but that is actually something I am currently looking to explore. Maybe opposites attract and maybe I will have better luck if I go with a lower percentage - I will have to get back to you on that one.
The friend portion was INCREDIBLE!! I am very literally friends still to this day with a lot of the dudes, and we were at least a 90% in the friend category. AMAZING! AMAZING! AMAZING!
Thanks for reaching out!
There ya go nerderinos - hope this helps. Totally check out OKCupid though. I'm not mad at it - however, I am looking to contact someone over at Match for another experiment. The market is too saturated I feel on OKC for me right now - too many peeps know what I do, and that gets lame.
Click here if you wanna read about my 103 dates in 9 months experiment (please note, it did not AT ALL start off as an experiment. Was just me looking to date - however when I hit 96 dates I figured with that much info I could at least write a thesis, so I pretty much just stopped with a relatively round number.)
and click here to check out OKC for yourself! Good stuff, dudes!