#NerdsUnite: 3 Dates & No Spark. How To Let Him Down Easy
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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Brian Freedman
"I have had three dates with this guy and I am not into him at all. I mean the attention is nice, but I was dreading even going on the last date we had. What is the nicest way to tell him and what is an appropriate time?"
1) By avoiding "breaking up" with him, you aren't doing him any favors.
2) You've gone on three dates. THREE! You don't owe him anything. The dudes’ still practically a stranger.
3) Call him up, and tell him you appreciate the time you've spent together but you don't want to waste his or your time anymore by continuing to date because you're no longer interested. If he asked what happened, just say he's not your type. If he asks what's your type, just say you got to go. You don't owe him really any closure other than the respect of calling him up and telling him it's over. He may be mad at you, but that won't last long and besides, you were upfront and honest about breaking up.
4) Don't tell him you want to be friends (unless you genuinely do)
a. You only offer that as a solution for your guilt
b. If he says “No,” it's because he doesn't want to be your friend
c. If he says “Yes,” it's because he thinks if he's still in contact with you, there's a chance he can start dating you again later on and eventually see you naked
Guys are stronger than you think and don't like wasting time figuring out what's going on when the girl already knows what she wants (in this case, she doesn't want the guy). Ultimately, men appreciate directness more than compassion.
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