Fun with #OKCupid: 3 emails ... 3 different responses

Jul 27

First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received in the last 48 hours, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...

This is great in the sense that I can tell he actually read the profile and responded versus posting a generic email (which is like the black kiss of death).

I'm neither here nor there on the email. In fact, his default has a picture with hats and glasses on - I have absolutely no desire to even click on his profile. Does that sound bitchy? Prolly. But chicks on a free dating site are inundated with emails - and you sir just added a hurdle to your approach. What's up with that, babe? Get rid of the hats, glasses, spirithoods, photo filters. Show me you ... your face ... clear shot - BOOM!! I will judge your attractiveness, just be honest about whatcha look like!

Actual Response: None

(Which btw SUCCKKKSSS because we are a 95% match. I just can't do it, I can't click on someone who has hats and glasses in their default. It just SCREEEAMMMSSS to me what the eff are you hiding?? Dude, I'm a lifecaster - haha I'm the most transparent person on the planet! Not gonna get along.)

Wait, hold the phone for a sec. Your opener is "hey sister ... ?" If I'm trying to view you as a sexual object, one that I might one day make sweet sweet whoopie too, is "hey sister ..." really what you want to start with? I'm a bit confused here.

Fail. Big fail. Bigger than big fail - this is actually a first, hahaha. I've never had a dude open with "hey sister" unless he was at karaoke singin' this ...

Weird.

Actual Response: None

Wow, first off thank you - incredible compliment. This was honestly though, the compliment aside, top 5 for best emails I've ever gotten on OKC. Not being he was being nice or anything, but because he was being honest. He sat there viewing my profile, then took a look at the site, and thought - oh holy fuck, now what? He doesn't know what his next doable action is, so he just flat out asked. Incredibly genuine - that SHIINNEESSSSS through!

I prefer short and sweet messages. I'm super ADD, and always bouncing off the walls from one thing to the next stirring all the pots as I go. One thing that doesn't get me off is when a guy solely comments on my attractiveness. ex. "hey ur hot. how u doin" I'm a nerd, looks are the last thing that do anything for me - in FACT that's why I use OKC because I wanted their algorithm to find me a mate since I can't do it at the bar scene. All about the mental stimulation.

All girls honestly are different, and like most things in life, it's a crap shoot! However, if you do enter with an open mind, and a genuine heart - as cheesy as it sounds, it shines through.

Great job, dude!

Actual Response: You send that exact message. Hi, I'm Jen.

Hope this helps, nerderinos!!!!