#Fact: Losing Your Virginity CAN Be An Amazing Experience
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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Brian Freedman
It's true a lot of people's first time's are quite possibility their worst. Let's see if we can change that.
Generally people talk about the emotional mindset going into bed their first time, but the physical aspect also plays a major role into a woman's expectations (she is being repeatedly shanked by a penis, after all). It would be easy to tell these women to have the lowest expectations they can think of and expect no fun or pleasure for their first experience with good ole twig n berries, and then they wouldn't be disappointed because they will believe it will be bad in the first place. But since that's a dumb and partially cruel answer, the first thing an absentee woman can do to prepare herself is masturbate (This is where the physical comes into play of her view of how sex should feel).
A woman can't go into sex without even knowing what it's like when something's inside her, let alone never experiencing an orgasm. Practice makes perfect. Although self-gratification isn't the same as sex, it allows a woman to explore her body and find out what feels good to her and what are the right, "OH YEAH!" spots to hit. If she physically doesn't know what she wants because she has not figured out what feels good for her, then the guy will fail miserably at fulfilling such erroneous erogenous zones. When she knows she loves having her breasts cupped while playing with her vulva, she can then communicate that to her partner and he will drive her wild.
After she knows what she wants, I urge women to practice asking for what they want. They should have this talk with their boyfriends or soon-to-be-husbands several times prior to their first time - practicing being comfortable with open, honest communication about asking for pleasure in the bedroom. If a woman knows what feels good but is too embarrassed or ashamed of asking, then her first and every time after will be an unpleasant one.
Stay in the moment. Be present. It's important for a woman to be with her partner mentality and emotionally, as well as physically. It's very easy for women to be thinking about dishes, what they have to do the next day, how are they going to pay off the credit card debt, ect. while having sex, and that can bring up a lot of anxiety and lower their performance and happiness. It's especially difficult for women who will be having sex for the first time with their man because they will be compelled to have thoughts of, "Am I doing this right?" and "Is he happy?" The best thing for her to do is not stay in her own head, and communicate those very concerns to him, so he can give her reassurance or directions, thus making the experience not only wonderful and amazing, but memorable for years to come.
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