#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick ...

I get asked a lot of absurdly random things by you wunnerful wunnerful people everyday - so I wanted to just start posting some of them to see if anyone else can relate, or help out with info if I can't answer ... etc.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, but I have a feeling you guys will throw some cool shit my way. HAHA!!! Here's one I just got on OkCupid ...

Quick disclaimer: In case you couldn’t already tell, I’m basically an idiot, especially when it comes to women. Hence the questions…

I guess I’m curious about:
1 – How on earth am I supposed to introduce myself to a girl without it being a completely humiliating and regrettable experience, especially in a bar? What’s an opening that is likely to hold your attention – interesting without being corny?
2 – Is there any chance whatsoever that a girl could be seriously interested in, or attracted to, a guy who is openly awkward around women? Or is feigned confidence the way to go?
3 – How important is a guy’s job or work ambitions to you?
4 – How big was the biggest, um, erm, ‘guy’ you or your friends have actually seen or dealt with in person? (Long story why I’m asking...)
5 – What do you like doing with your mutual, non-romantic male friends?
6 – To what extent is mystery important in a guy? Are guys who reveal almost nothing about themselves likely to hold your interest for long?
7 – Do girls essentially prefer being the more mature and controlling person in the relationship, or do they prefer a guy who ‘knows what he wants’ and all that?

Thanks for all your help
Nick

Hey Nick! First off, thanks for reaching out, and being so brave and candid. I'm just going to address all of these in numerical order to keep it nice and pretty.

1. The best line you can have at a bar is no line at all. No like literally. If a girl is sitting alone at the bar, I GUARANTTEEEEEEE you she's just as much looking for you as you are her. We're animals remember? We still gather at watering holes. Do you come here often? And whatcha drinking are kinda lame. I would literally just sit down next to her, or as close as possible, and say hi. Follow the K.I.S.S. mentality of keeping it simple stupid. We appreciate the honesty, and it certainly keeps your stress level down as well by not having to come up with something cheesy.

2. I think an awkward guy can be absolutely adorable. I am personally very very very attracted to confidence; life is reflective. I can sniff dudes out that don't own their shit, and its a big turn off. But that's me! If you're awkward own it! Find an awkward chick and go and have awkward babies!!! Be you. Period. End. Of. Sentence.

3. For me, what someone does professionally is huge. I don't care how much money you make or anything - I will only date someone that is following their passion. Again life is reflective, I can't handle people that work 9-5s and hate what they do, it alters their energy and we won't vibrate at the same level. So for me, yes - this is HUGGEEEE!!!

4. Regarding size? This one is a biggie, hahaa no pun intended. I lost my virginity to a huge dude. Like definitely top 3 of the biggest I've seen. Never busted out a ruler, but had to be at least 8 with girth. Penis size is an interesting thing, and another thing you have to own. haha literally. but seriously, when I was younger and less experienced, I only preferred guys with smaller penises - I'll say smaller being anything in the range of 4. Those were the guys that I wanted to date because it hurt a lot less, obviously. Now though I am able to have an orgasm from penetration, and anatomically speaking - I can get off easier with guys that have a bigger penis. I say big as anything above 6. However, I have dated guys with smaller penises and been able to get off as well. It's not a deal breaker if a guy has a smaller penis, but if you have around a 4, I would definitely start honing your ability to go down on a girl. If you can master that, it makes up for everything. Literally. Everything. (click here for more information on the female orgasm)

5. Eat wings and drink beer. HAHA literally, I'm a big beer drinker - and I just like to kick it with my guy friends. Nothing special.

6. Honestly there is no mystery anymore - social media killed all of that. I can find out your likes, see your pics, family, friends, anything. So if you want to be mysterious, I wouldn't add someone right away on Facebook to sort of let it all organically fold. But I dunno, I'm kinda a freak of nature in the regard that I just don't care. It makes me no more or less interested in someone. I actually find that I am more attracted to someone once I have sufficiently Facebook stalked them. Total turn on seeing you living your life. MMM Me likey!

7. Again, life is reflective. I want a guy that knows what he wants. I run a business and a brand - I make decisions all day, everyday - when I'm on a date, I want to turn my brain off. Don't ask me where I want to go, don't ask me what I want to do. My awesome is organic and goes everywhere with me. I prefer guys to take control, but in an honest way. Be who you are, know what you want, and share that with me.

Thanks again so much for reaching out! Hope this helps!

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