Fun with #OkCupid: A night of firsts
AHH! Just got back from a date on OKC with a WHOLLLEEE lotta firsts.
First up, I need a song as I write this ... I'm still buggin' after not having music in my ears LITERALLY all day yesterday. A song with this post ... HMMMMM ...
HAHAHA omg, no. I can't do Hootie. Yes, it is playing on my New Radicals station currently on Pandora - but for the love of all things holy ... no.
Alrite, not mad at this ...
This date was hilarious. It was filled with so many firsts, it's blowing my mind.
First up, I check my "visitors" on OKC almost every day. Mostly because I'm interested in how editing my profile will populate in their search algorithm. Like for example, if I edit a text portion of my profile will I get more views versus adding a picture ... etc.
I RELIGIOUSLY check my visitors. RE-LIG-IOUSLY. Wait, is that even spelled right? Who cares.
Like a week ago, I noticed this duderino that checked out my profile but didn't send me a message. That honestly happens all the time that you have a RED "replies selectively" in your profile. Dudes assume your inbox is full and don't bother messaging you. I will ABSOLUTELY get 50% more emails if I am in the yellow or green.
So, I know I'm at a red. I haven't been replying back to everyone as I should because frankly, I've been genuinely looking to find someone - while at the same time also understanding that I can capitalize on the market for advertising purposes. I will hustle til the day that I die, but I also very genuinely am looking to date. I enjoy rocking my socks off both personally and professionally. Am I still talking? Shut up Jen.
SOOOOOOO!!! (My ADD is super bad today) I saw this super cute dude, with a REALLY genuine and AWESOME smile in his default viewed my profile without messaging me - so I decided to email him and say what's up! Here's the actual email ...
I pulled from his profile one detail - and related it back to myself to show interest without being generic. And I also GENUINELY enjoy making people comfortable and uncomfortable so it was a hilarious detail that I wanted to point out amused me.
He then got back to me, and included in his email his phone number.
I had checked my profile around the same time as the email came in (very honestly a coincidence) and I saw the number, and immediately called.
I'm very very very much a no BS person - I called expecting to get a voicemail and to my surprise, he answered!
Oh shit, I thought. Hi! I said!!
Wow, he goes I JUST emailed you.
I then look at the timestamp on the email, and do an air facepalm. I LITERALLY called him like 30 seconds after he emailed me.
I laughed really hard - thinking wow, never done that before. Whatever, I will own this shit.
He asks if he can call me back - I say fine. Conversation ends.
He then texts me inviting me out on Saturday, and of course as you all know - we held our epic Nerd Herd 2nd anniversary party on Saturday.
I told him I couldn't kick it solo with him, but invited him to come out!
He said no (totally understand), then we text back and forth for a bit - finally settling on tonight for the date.
We settle on 8pm, and to my surprise I get there before he does.
My eyes start to wander, and I notice this super cutie patootie sitting next to me.
I go to take a picture to tweet out about how hot he is, and while I remembered to turn the flash off, I forgot to turn the volume down.
I IMMEDIATELY place my hand over the phone, and instead of capturing a picture of the hottie, manage to capture a wonderful picture of my palm ...
Really?!! Really Jen Friel!?!?! How long have you been lifecasting?!?! Epic fail. Epic epic fail.
Fortunately, minutes later my actual date arrives.
Wow, I think - he is way hotter than his profile pic.
I don't normally date guys this attractive actually. I am looking to break a pattern, and have spent my entire early 20s dating very attractive guys - and it got me no where. They are not only dumb as fucking rocks because they have failed to cultivate any sort of personality, but they are alarmingly uninteresting to boot.
The only reason why I messaged this guy (something I rarely do on OKC to begin with) again was because of his genuine smile. That is SUCCCHHHHHH a rare thing to find online. I could tell this dude, at that present moment, wasn't mad at his life. That is a turn on!
We sit down, grab beers, and then he starts talking about his day, and inquiring about mine. By looking at the guy you could tell he had a long day, I empathized explaining I have had an equally long day. I explained that not only was I teaching yesterday but I was in the process of editing and uploading the hour long lecture and it was a bit more arduous than anticipated.
He looked at me puzzled. Wait, you were teaching yesterday? Where?
Cal State Fullerton, I said.
Why were you teaching at a college? he pressed on
Because of my website.
OMG I think, this guy has ZZZEERRROOOOOO idea what I do. This. Is. Going. To. Be. Fun.
Out of 103 dates in 9 months, and the however many I have been on in the last 7 months since stopping the experiment - I have never ever ever had guys ask me about what I do or my background. EVVEERRRYOONEEEE googles me, or reads the site, or has checked me out in social media. It's hilarious actually and prolly the only way I was able to sustain going out on that many dates for that long. I enter into conversations mid sentence which for me is AH-MAZING since I dig cutting out the BS.
He then asks me about where I'm from ... what I do ...
He is COMPLETELY puzzled by it.
Wait, you have adventures and this is a business? How?
I then explain to him that I started a new media production company and as the words continue to spew from my mouth I am, for the first time, realizing how ridiculous my life sounds.
He was INCREDIBLY open minded with it all - but just INCREDIBLY confused how someone could sustain an existence from it.
I kept trying to explain, but realizing I was kind of digging myself in a hole. This guy has no idea what I do, but I'm genuinely intrigued by it.
His body language was very open, but he was very much thinking, who. the. fuck. is. this. girl.
It was really really really REALLY funny!
He then asked me a series of questions about what I was looking for - not in a, hey, I wanna see if we match kinda way, but with a genuine child like sense of wonder and curiosity.
Someone that challenges me, I say.
I can't find people that challenge me intellectually. And I'm WAY more street smart than book smart, but I don't find guys that I want to date very often because not a lot of dudes interest me (which was also part of the reason why I started dating using an algorithm).
He understood, while still looking at me like I was bat shit.
I ended the date a bit early throwing back only two beers - mostly because I could tell he was exhausted, and I still want to finish editing this video so I can upload it for tomorrow.
His job pulls him in a lot of directions so I wasn't mad at him for not googling, but it was hilarious that this guy is kind of passive about OKC so much so that he literally didn't even click the link to the site on my profile, nor did he do ANY sort of background check on me prior. 103 dates in 9 months - that was a first.
ANNDDD he was also way hotter than his profile pic. Which threw me in a good way for sure, but also surprised me because he was attractive and had a pretty rad personality. That's a lot of firsts for one first date. I operate from a very mathematical and analytical brain - being surprised every once in a while is nice.
#thatisall
