#Fact: Your most powerful tool in the bedroom is NOT your “tool”
<editorsnote> Jordan is a dating coach. But not like "a" dating coach ... lemme rephrase that, he is THE dating coach. He has a show on SiriusXM called "Game On" and he's a super smarty pants when it comes to examining social dynamics. No ... like for real. </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger
You can give a woman an orgasm without even touching her. Don’t believe me? Go see a stage hypnosis show in Vegas. Hypnotists do it every night. Hell, there are videos of this on YouTube.
Now you may be thinking “But I’m not a hypnotist.” If you stop yourself here, you will miss out on the real secret to giving women the best sex of their life. You’ll blow your chance to be called The Best Lover they ever had.
So what is this amazing secret? Here it is in a nutshell:
Your most powerful tool in the bedroom is not your “tool”, it is your voice; specifically dirty talk, and it is very powerful.
If you haven’t heard this before, it doesn’t surprise me.
All the so-called “sex books” out there are utterly ineffective at teaching men how to give women orgasms.Their advice is the typical “nurture communication and dialog”, or “ask for feedback” or “get in touch with your feminine side”.
In other words it’s mostly touchy feely new age bullshit. And you won’t find any of them telling you to talk dirty to your women, or to get her imagining what you will do to her later while you are on a date, or to call her when you are out of town and have phone sex.
Women LOVE this stuff!
Why? Because for a woman, the mental aspect is the most important part of sex. For men it’s visual.
Men watch porn. Women read 500 page romance novels. (In case you didn’t know, Romance novels are one of the top selling categories of books year after year after year).
When you understand this, you can drive women wild even when you are a thousand miles away!
Now some men are afraid to talk dirty. They think the woman will take it wrong or will be offended. Some men can’t talk dirty because they themselves are not comfortable with their own sexuality. Some men don’t believe that dirty talk is powerful.
Such men don’t give women orgasms. Remember 70% of women do NOT have an orgasm during intercourse. ALL healthy women can have orgasms during sex, but it is the man’s responsibility to make it happen. And I got news for you… pump-n-dump does not do the trick.
Think of the bad boys. Women love bad boys. Women cum like crazy with a bad boy. And what do you think those bad boys are doing in the bedroom with her? They’re talking dirty. Very dirty.
Maybe you’re “a nice guy” or “a gentleman.” That’s all good. But if you are always a nice guy, it does not spark any excitement in her. There is a time and place to be a bad boy. You need to push out of your comfort zone and learn how.
Here is an email that I recently received, note the one thing that made a difference was him talking dirty.
Sean in the U.K. wrote:
I recently started dating a girl who told me that she’d never had an orgasm and genuinely seemed to have no interest in sex.
Well after a bit of building an emotional relationship and respect, I began to try and give her that elusive first orgasm. At first nothing seemed to work. Then during sex I took control and started talking dirty, and that just drove her crazy and she had a vaginal orgasm!
Overnight she turned into the kinkiest girl I’ve ever come across! We had sex in the park, and so much more! She is now able to have both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and wants sex all the time!
Now after this she’s told me that I make her feel better than any other guy and that she’s scared that no other guy will be able to make her feel this good after me.
Thank you!
Sean
The other thing to note is how this woman went from no interest in sex to wanting it all the time! And it had nothing to do with the size of his ‘tool’.
Are you getting an idea of how powerful this is?
Go play.
#nerdsunite
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<editorsnote> BTW, COULD. NOT. AGREE. WITH. THIS. POST. MORE. Foreplay starts LONNNGGG before the bedroom, and in my teen years to mid 20s, I actually used to read porn not watch it. True stroy. </editorsnote>
