#Question: Am I a cold heartless bitch? (penis picture discussion)

Nov 20

I have a question for you nerderinos on something I am feeling conflicted over. Am I a cold heartless bitch?

This morning, I woke up to a very angry email from the duderino I posted the penis picture on. The conflict comes from the fact that I genuinely genuinely genuinely do like the guy - but my gut is telling me that this is all bs.

First, read his email - then I will explain to you more of the situation, and I want you guys to decide if I should in fact take the penis picture post down (and this one too obviously). Alrite, take it away duderino!

you WOULD post that on your site.
Look Jen, if it upset you im sorry.
You always seem to pride yourself in being openminded, and having shit figured out. Cool.

1) The INTENDED recipient of those pics ASKED for them. I noticed your typical "men-are-idiots-let-me-fill- you-in" tangent, thanks. I was raised with 4 sisters, i know most guys dont know this, but the female mind really isnt as complex as you make it seem, and I know women are emotionally stimulated. Its nothing new, you didnt break ground there. I wasnt trying to make the girl have a screaming orgasm. It was all a bad mix-up and me not double checking the actual address before it sent.

2) I would expect someone your age/implied maturity to handle this (a pretty shy guy getting the courage to send a girl he's been talking to pics of himself, after she asked for them, then accidentally sending them to a pretty girl hes never met, twice as embarassing) with ALOT more class than you did. You put a vulnerable person on blast publicly. Who cares if you cropped out my face? IIIII know its me. and THATS all that matters when you humiliate someone. how it makes THEM feel. What part of this is the level-headed, cool, collected Jen??

Im sure youre tired of nudes being sent to you. These werent SENT to you, they were RECIEVED by you. They were SENT to a girl who later had a very positive reaction. As soon as I told you it was a mistake, any notion of a post yelling at guys for this (which i get fully) spurred by ME, should have left your mind. You completely humiliated me. I know you werent always who you are. Youve mentioned social hardship when you were younger. Over the past year ive lost EIGHTY POUNDS. Ive always been the fat kid. Ive been working on my confidence, trying to be more content with myself. And youve knocked me back to square one. This was the first time i had ever taken nude pics of myself.

I wish you would have shown more humanity here. I made an embarassing mistake, then you amplified it x1000. Maybe, sometimes, not everything has to be made public. Because someone else's dignity and potentially bad, dare i say self-harming reaction is on the line. Your're not IsAnyoneUp. Dont try their game. Stay what youve been doing and let smut be smut.

All I ask is that you please remove it from whenerever places you posted it. I know, you may lose a teeny bit of traffic on one measley post. I think youll live. Theres more at stake here than statistics.

Btw, as if you hadnt made it bad enough, that "eeweee" body hair is a permamnet irreversible side effect to a medication i was forced to take as a little kid for an illness that almost killed me. Its like a humiliating scar that covers my entire body. and you fucking laughed at it.
So thanks for that too.

youve lost a fan, a reader, and a supporter.
but after just seeing how cold you can be, i doubt youll care.

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Icing on the cake?
The girl I sent those to saw your blog.
She now thinks I sent em to multiple people. She said she wants nothing to do with me.

Thanks Jen. Hope it was worth a fucking blog post.

This entire thing feels like such bullshit. I'm sorry. Maybe I am cold and heartless, but I have been around the internet block before - and NONE of this smells true. (Remember My Fake Internet Boyfriend?) I genuinely like this kid so I'm HOPING I am wrong, but after living primarily online for the last 4 years, the level of dramatics in his email makes me wonder.

Here are some things that make me question:

1. Prior to him sending me the pictures, he had viewed my OKC profile the day before, and even sent me an email the week prior. It went unanswered out of genuine busy-ness. I was DEFINITELY on this dude's radar screen, no doubt about it.

2. I get MULTIPLE penis pictures every. other. week. Seriously, as crazy as that sounds - this isn't my first time at the rodeo. Albeit yes, this is the first one I have posted on - dudes totes get off on this shit. I'm also the unofficial dating chica online, and also someone who posts their sexual adventures - dudes not only feel a connection with me, but they also want to conquer me themselves. It's animalistic, whatevs- I put it out there, I'll own it. But I hate hate hate hate HAAATTTEEEE getting so many penis emails and texts.

3. Look at the overall dramatics of the email.

This was his FIRST time taking a nude picture (which is understandable and I could believe). He didn't CHECK to see the address info? Bullshit! The first time I sent my bf a sext I checked up, down, left, and RIGHT that that shit was correct. If this truly was in fact his first one sent out - he would have checked. No friggen way! Not buying that AT ALL.
The chickadee he sent it to saw the picture on this site? Come on man! I am flattered that he's saying we're that big - but come on, I took out all of the identifiable qualities and LITERALLY showed you all less than 25% of the actual picture. It's COMPLETELY zoomed in, and I am totally totally totally not buying it.
Dramatic childhood illness. Again, I'm not perfect either man - I have PLENTY of shit from my childhood, and plenty of weird looking scars and whatevs - but so what. This ENTIRE email felt like one massive jab of oh, so, do you feel bad yet? Do ya? Do ya? Cause OOOHHHHHH look what I have over here. I'm. Not. Buying. It.

Again though, I ALWAYS like to keep myself in check, and remain transparent. I use the online medium as a means to better myself as a person - but frankly, I've hit a breaking point with penis pictures. You're right I'm angry - I'm DAMN angry - I get them all. the. fucking. time. It's gross, it's invasive - there I was on the couch watching a chick flick drinking a bud light and boooooommmmm a penis walks into the room. Like seriously? SERIOUSLY?!?!!

I will say this, I do think the guy meant to send it to me as a form of sexual fetish, I do NOT think he knew I was going to post on it - but I did, and possession is 9/10ths of the law. Accident or not, I'm REALLY not buying it if it was your first nude picture. There's NO way!! Having been in those shoes I was SOOOOO nervous and checked over and over that it was sent to the right person. Too dramatic, and I'm not buying it.

But again, maybe I am wrong and maybe I am a cold heartless bitch. What do you guys think? Should I take it down (and obviously this post too)???

LMK your thoughts and majority will rule. Thanks nerderinos!! xoxoxoxxoxo