Inheritance, schmeritance
I had a really rad conversation with my mom this afternoon regarding my dad's mom that kinda got me thinking about things.
See, my dad's family and I never had a relationship. Now, my dad's mom is quite ill - and who knows how much longer she will grace us with her presence. I told my mom today on the phone that I'd like to be kept up to date, and even told her about friending my dad's sister on Facebook. She didn't freak out, but just went on a mini-tirade about how they are thieves, and slimey people that she wants nothing to do with. I heard the same thing come out of her mouth that I have heard since I was 13, and all of it came to a point. See, they were never really nice people - but when I was 13 they did some pretty sneaky things to my dad that cut us all out of an inheritance. We're from Connecticut people, and we still have a family home in Ireland ... this isn't the 2 figured type of inheritance you received in the form of a bond when you were born and hope to one day collect on. This is the real deal.
Don't get me wrong, I do think it was uber shady what they did to my dad, but come ON it's been 12 years. I'm not saying that they won't do it again, or that they have somehow become nicer people ... I'm just saying WHO CARES?!?!?!!!!! Why would I want an inheritance from people that I had no relationship with? Dude, this is in writing - and I'm sure can be admissible in court ... just keep me out of your bullshit. I spent half my life drugged up and in therapy because of those people, and now I'm not on a single prescription, and my only high is life. Feels pretty damn GREAT!!!! I just heard today how much anger my mom still holds towards them, and it reminded me of that Japanese proverb about anger being like a hot coal. Holding on to it only hurts you. It's so true!!!!! At the end of the day, we don't take anything with us - so who cares!? I really do hold everyone in a place of unconditional love, and fuck, I'm about to be set for a very long time. So, why take money or homes when I'll just build my own compound? I can't argue with my mom on it - because as is, I'm working on rebuilding our relationship ... but I can't help but to think how sad all of this is. Life is so precious. No matter what your family dynamic may be ... we are not our family!!! There is no obligation for any one or anything to receive ANYTHING from ANYONE when they die. Sure, it's nice and lovely ... but why would I want something based out of birth right. I work incredibly hard, and I'll take my happiness and my own personal sense of satisfaction any day of the week.
