My Top Ten Advice for being SUPER #AWESOME at Online Dating
TalkNerdyToMeLover's @kristi_gail
So, I've been in the online dating scene for about a week now and I've experienced many things...the good, the bad and the ugly...literally. Beyond all that, for those of you that have never tried online dating...I highly recommend it! Yes, there are plenty of duds that you come across...BUT, I've found a few (potential) needles in the haystack thus far--in only a week mind you! (My site of choice: OKCupid.com...it's FREE and there are no shortage of super hot amazing guys on there...not sure about the girl selection as I do not frequent female profiles.)
Keep in mind that any advice I offer up is primarily focused towards men due to the simple fact that those are the only profiles I see...but, nevertheless, this advice can be universal across the gender board.
My Online Dating Advice:
1. Be creative in your profile. This really is your first impression. If you are funny...be funny. If you are sarcastic...be that sarcastic bastard that all your friends know and love! If you are into Underwater Basket Weaving...you better damn well explain your passion for it to make me fall in love with it too!
2. Upload pictures. I don't always look at the pictures first if a guy's message intrigues the hell outta me. I will then read his entire profile. IF I am still interested at that point, I will peruse his pictures. And if there is any initial physical attraction whatsoever, I will respond. If not, I won't. Sorry...I just don't want to waste anyone's time...especially not my own. Oh, and this is VERY important: i love "artistic" pictures as much as the next girl, but don't let them be so artistic that we can't see your face in ANY of them....or they are all blurry, or they show you from years ago. I have literally seen pictures on a profile that say, "This is me about 2 years ago." Why the HELL don't you have any recent pics up, man??? Are you now deformed in some unimaginable way?? Whether or not that is the case, that is what I will think. I'll imagine you with some crazy face tattoo like Mike Tyson. And then I never respond to your message. Sorry.
3. If you happen to go on a date with a girl, don't do the 3 day rule...she'll most likely be thinking you are not into her and she's your last resort by that point. That's just how it goes living in a city as fast paced as LA is. I would say send her a text the next day saying you had fun and then wait to text her again until 1 whole day later to hang out again. If she's into you, that's sufficient time to get her questioning whether or not you REALLY had a good time and keep her on her toes. (I will explain more about this later in a post about my actual online dating experiences.)
4. Be yourself...and don't apologize for it. This may lead to some dates ending unfortunately...but, hey, at least you know now. The person that will be right along there with you, is still to come, so don't waste your time on someone who is not.
5. Guys: Unless you are looking for a sexual relationship only, DO NOT post anything about you having a well-endowed member or being really REALLY good at any sexual act. If you caught my attention at all in your message and then I read this in your profile...i'll be out faster than you can say, "I've got a huge package." Girls: Don't be so super sexual that the only reason guys message you is because they know they will get laid. Be yourself, but also be a LADY...let that special guy bring out the VIXEN in you....AFTER a few or more dates (not initially.) ...Unless you would just like to have a one night stand, that is...then I say, "Get it girl!" If you want him to stick around for a bit and actually get to know your middle name, then keep 'em closed, ladies...you'll know when it's right.
6. Beyond anything else, MAKE HER LAUGH. All women love to laugh. She'll adore at least THAT about you.
7. Don't talk about how much money you make...you are just ASKING for "golddiggers" at that point. If that's what you want, a "sugarbaby," then have at it...that's what you'll get for sure.
8. Don't be afraid to tell at least your first name in your profile...simply said, it just makes it just a little more personal.
9. Being brave, I've posted my Facebook and Twitter links for my online dating onlookers to peruse and get to know a more in-depth me. So, being a big experiment to me, I've noticed some things that i'd like to address. If I add you on Facebook, that BY NO MEANS is an indicator that I am interested. I am just giving you the chance to get to know me based on my daily updates from my social networks. That being said, these networks are VERY important to me and thus, very very out in the open with my most intimate of contacts. ie. my family. Please do not post things to my Facebook wall...that is as public as you can get. Unless we've had at least 2 dates, JUST DON'T DO IT. If you do, that is serious grounds for BLOCKING. BLOCKED. Don't make my immediate friends and family ask me who u are if we've not even met yet. "Discretion"...look it up.
10. Be polite. Be courteous. Be chivalrous. Even if she doesn't like/ask for it. Respect her. ...And girls: If he takes you on a date...maybe offer to pay for at least the popcorn & a drink. It's just polite.
Okay, there's my advice so far based on my online dating experiences. Comments? Questions? Hit me up! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback! Be sure to keep an eye out for my next post about my actual online dating experiences...oh, it's gonna be GOOD. ; )
xoxo