Don't give it up on the first #date
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @SaintPepsi
Something many a girl holds to be a social rule. Same thing applies to you nerds out there. Most times a girl doesn't need your full life story. Ease her into the crazy that is you. Sure you can spout off all kinds of random and to you impressive facts. Like saying, “I have a black market copy of one of the original Star Wars reels.” This gets you ridiculous clout in the nerd community and probably a Lucas films black ops team at your door. However, does she really need to know that now? No she doesn't. Don't give away all your interesting stories on the first date over a scone and a latte in the local coffee shop.
Here's why. So often we freak and try and spill every interesting factoid about our lives. We are under the assumption with our low self esteem that there won't be a second date. So like the social cacti we are; we try and soak up all the time we can with what ever girl gives us the time of day. Slow down and let the conversation progress. Let your tangents come naturally. Maybe she'll mention an interest in Science Fiction and you can break out your bad ass tale of how you acquired said reels. Chances are though she's just looking to get to know you and not your collection of movies or collectible figurines imported from Japan.
See the tales of your hobbies and collections fall under the same category as a jock talking up his daily work out routine, like how he lifts for 3 hrs at the gym. This only tells the girl that he has less time to spend with her. Same goes for you saying you beat both Mass Effect games in 3 days by skipping meals and not sleeping. This only shows her she's second to your gaming time. Being a nerd you had better damn well be a reader. So I have always found that conversations about the books you are both reading keep you each captivated with the others interests. Now if she doesn't read. You use the lemon rule and get up and walk out. This is quite empowering to you and your self esteem.
If she is interested in your pastimes or books, please for the love of cthulhu do not correct her when she mispronounces something in a tale you tell. “Oh! I love Star Trak!” “Spook was so hot in that movie!” Sure you want to scream “STAR TREK and SPOCK!!!” Then phaser yourself in the foot even more by bringing up that Leonard Nimoy was way better than Zachary Quinto. Mindless nerd rants will get you at the wrong end of the lemon rule. Avoid at all costs.
Work. It's never an easy topic to keep a conversation going usually people after they leave work, would like to talk about anything but work. Asking questions about the girls hobbies and pastime activities fits in well here. This also gives you a base to jump from. Much like mega man on those disappearing blocks; to knowing what parts of your daily life can easily meld into this conversation. Don't think to long on it though or like those disappearing blocks you'll be left with the dreaded awkward silence. Something that gives a girl enough time to make up her mind and text her gal pal to call her with a family emergency.
On this first date it is key not to over analyze everything she says. This will only leave you with an always quizzical look on your face which is weird and unattractive. We nerds all seem to do this though. Attempt to find meaning in the most mundane of questions or answers. Let them go by the wayside and concentrate on her. But not in a creepy way with the furrowed brow and glasses down one inch on your nose. Just be yourself and don't lay it on too thick. Calm and collected.
Lastly, never and I mean never mention, “Oh by the way I know this totally hot actress named Jen Friel in Hollywood.” No girl on a date wants to hear about other girls. I know... I know shes too cool not to talk about. BUT YOU MUST REFRAIN! But seriously, not talking about ex-girlfriends or any other girls during a date has got to be one of the biggest rules you can lay down. Using other girls as a means of showing you have a social life will certainly bring down the pale horse to this moment. Show her she is the center of your universe in this moment and the only girl deserving of your attention. This includes talking about strip clubs, porn, how hot some actress is or side long letching of waitresses. She is the center of your universe and you are at warp speed so to turn would derail you and leave you seeing stars with a slap to the face that no warm hole can bring you back from.
Best luck in the dating arena if all goes well you can expect some tank and spanking.
Jordan (saintpepsi) Mizell
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