#NerdsUnite: Finding My Bliss
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Eric. He is a MAASSTTEERRR social dynamics expert that will be talking about his experiences in the field from both an expert, and experience perspective. He's not just saying "this is how to get the girl" he's here to share his actual life stories and lessons learned from them. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT ERIC !!</editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
Saturday night was the first and ever social dynamics workshop conducted by myself and Jen Friel. It was foking amazing. The excitement and bliss that I felt watching these guys make the first moves into a whole new life was something beyond spectacular.
Our social dynamics night started with the question “Why are you here?” The answers varied but the awesome guys that came out to workshop both wanted change. They wanted to sharpen their social skills. Every time that I meet a guy who’s built the courage to make this change I am so proud already. As a guy, admitting that you want to be better socially gets a mixture of reactions and they are rarely good ones. Girls think you’re a douche and guys think you’re a pussy. This will be the subject of another blog but those two stereotypes couldn't be further from the truth. Girls will thank you and guys will follow you, this is not typical of the aforementioned personality characteristics.
After some intense prying into what made these guys special on the deepest levels we discovered some life issues that we knew would tackled through this process. I am such an advocate for this training because I know the profound ripple effect it has on someone's life. With all the deep stuff covered it was time to move on to the practical information, how to open and rapport building. We covered every nitty-gritty detail from body language, to the hello, to what was to be said. We talked about the fundamentals of rapport building, how to get people engaged with you and then we were off to the bars.
It was amazing! Group after group opened up so well. They opened advanced sets like two girls seated in a booth at the back of a slow bar. During one set one of our guys captivated a doctor so well that her gay friend said “you should have asked for her phone number” WHAT!? That’s amazing! We were literally having to pull these guys out of conversations so we could get the repetition that we wanted.
The night ended with group hugs, high fives and the guys all looked me deep in the eye and gave a deeply heartfelt thank you that resonated so deeply it makes tear up just thinking about it. I have found my calling and it is to change the lives of these awesome guys. To teach them what society and their fathers never did. I can’t wait for next week's workshop!!!
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If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com