#NerdsUnite: How to Identify a Gold-Digger
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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger
Here’s a quick guide on how to identify a gold-digger.
First of all, let me distinguish between a gold-digger and a woman who wants you to treat her to dinner from time to time. The difference is the “time to time.”
See, most women will want a man to take her out as a romantic gesture on occasion. Sorry, but it’s true; splitting absolutely everything all the time might be financially practical, but it’s not sexy.
What makes a woman a gold-digger, though, is that she’s made it her job to find a man to pay for everything. And when I say job, I mean that literally—in the same way that most of us get an actual job to make money, a gold-digger has made finding a rich man her means of “making” money.
In other words, for a gold-digger, having you take her out or buy her a gift isn’t a nice romantic treat. It’s her financial plan for life.
You can spot a gold-digger because her questions will be very materially oriented. For example, she will ask questions about what kind of car you drive, or she will comment on your clothing label (different than just a compliment on clothing like “nice shirt.”). A woman that’s genuinely seeking a romantic connection will be much more concerned with finding out about you and your personality.
So, you can screen out a gold-digger right away by finding about her and her personality. A gold-digger will typically be very fascinated with wealth and wealthy people and will talk about all the stuff she wants to have “one day,” but she works a low-paying job and seemingly has no career plans or aspirations to obtain said riches herself.
A gold digger will also throw out the names of expensive places to see if you’ll take the bait and say,“Yeah? You’d like to try that restaurant? I’ll take you there some time…”
That’s the sucker’s response.
A better response is something like, “Oh, I know a place that’s way less expensive but the food is actually better.” A gold-digger will be disappointed and move on to find a sucker. A non-gold-digger will likely be impressed by your knowledge of cool places to get good food without paying through the nose for it.
If you’ve already been on a few dates with her and she keeps dropping hints that she likes jewelry from Tiffany’s, you can respond with a low-budget gesture. Take her to Tiffany’s to get a Cracker Jack ring engraved.
Yes, that’s straight out of Breakfast at Tiffany’s and thus you doing it will probably result in you getting laid—unless she’s a gold digger, in which case it will probably result in her leaving you for someone who will happily fork out for the real thing. Good riddance. Now you’re free to find a woman who is worth you taking her out and picking up the tab–from time to time.
#nerdsunite
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, then visit http://www.theartofcharm.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.
Here’s a quick guide on how to identify a gold-digger.
First of all, let me distinguish between a gold-digger and a woman who wants you to treat her to dinner from time to time. The difference is the “time to time.”
See, most women will want a man to take her out as a romantic gesture on occasion. Sorry, but it’s true; splitting absolutely everything all the time might be financially practical, but it’s not sexy.
What makes a woman a gold-digger, though, is that she’s made it her job to find a man to pay for everything. And when I say job, I mean that literally—in the same way that most of us get an actual job to make money, a gold-digger has made finding a rich man her means of “making” money.
In other words, for a gold-digger, having you take her out or buy her a gift isn’t a nice romantic treat. It’s her financial plan for life.
You can spot a gold-digger because her questions will be very materially oriented. For example, she will ask questions about what kind of car you drive, or she will comment on your clothing label (different than just a compliment on clothing like “nice shirt.”). A woman that’s genuinely seeking a romantic connection will be much more concerned with finding out about you and your personality.
So, you can screen out a gold-digger right away by finding about her and her personality. A gold-digger will typically be very fascinated with wealth and wealthy people and will talk about all the stuff she wants to have “one day,” but she works a low-paying job and seemingly has no career plans or aspirations to obtain said riches herself.
A gold digger will also throw out the names of expensive places to see if you’ll take the bait and say,“Yeah? You’d like to try that restaurant? I’ll take you there some time…”
That’s the sucker’s response.
A better response is something like, “Oh, I know a place that’s way less expensive but the food is actually better.” A gold-digger will be disappointed and move on to find a sucker. A non-gold-digger will likely be impressed by your knowledge of cool places to get good food without paying through the nose for it.
If you’ve already been on a few dates with her and she keeps dropping hints that she likes jewelry from Tiffany’s, you can respond with a low-budget gesture. Take her to Tiffany’s to get a Cracker Jack ring engraved.
Yes, that’s straight out of Breakfast at Tiffany’s and thus you doing it will probably result in you getting laid—unless she’s a gold digger, in which case it will probably result in her leaving you for someone who will happily fork out for the real thing. Good riddance. Now you’re free to find a woman who is worth you taking her out and picking up the tab–from time to time.
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, then visit http://www.theartofcharm.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.