#RealDeal: The daytime number close
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#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
Today I left my house to work and I decided to go to Danny’s Deli in Venice and grab a table. I was sitting alone and had my headphones in my ears. Two blondes sat next to me, ordered food and bloody marys, the time was 2pm. When they first arrived I made eye contact with a smile on my face. I knew they were not going anywhere for at least 30 minutes so I wasn’t in a rush.
After about five minutes I removed my headphones to eliminate that barrier to conversation. I sat, continued working patiently, listened and waited for the opportunity to open. The opportunity presented itself when one of the girls accidentally spilled some of her drink on herself. Seizing the moment I commented, “Shit is starting to get wild!” and then laughed with them. I went back to work and continued listening. Then they started talking about tomatoes. The girl who I was interested in talked about how she did not like tomatoes. I also am not always a fan of the texture of tomatoes in my food. I used this to establish commonality with the girl I was interested in.
Now it was time to escalate the conversation. I had been able to determine that they were new to the area. It was time to start demonstrating my value. I asked them what they were doing for the weekend and if they were enjoying themselves. This worked perfectly because they were new to the area. I asked what they were interested in and then made recommendations. Since I had my computer with me I used the opportunity to become friends with one of them through Facebook in order to pass on information about a pool party at The Standard that a friend of mine was throwing. (Facebook close) After listing a number of different options for them I expressed that I too was unsure about my plans for the weekend and said that I should follow up later. (Number close.) During the rest of the time we sat and built rapport. They finished eating their meal and when they left I stood up, we each hugged one another and agreed that it was very nice meeting each other.
Take-aways:
- Be patient when you can. Certain situations have built in time allowances but don’t wait too long. I engaged within 5 minutes of them sitting down leaving me 25 minutes to work.
- A situational opener presented itself as an opportunity for seemingly spontaneous conversation. Seemingly spontaneous are the words you should remember here.
- Always have something fun to do. Your calendar should always have options. If your calendar doesn’t currently have fun options, make friends who are out and about often. Many engagements will require follow up so have something in mind.
#thatisall
If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com