#NerdsUnite: Life revelation through paying for a BJ? Shut the front door!
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Eric. He is a MAASSTTEERRR social dynamics expert that will be talking about his experiences in the field from both an expert, and experience perspective. He's not just saying "this is how to get the girl" he's here to share his actual life stories and lessons learned from them. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT ERIC !!</editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
The night that I met Jen and started talking about the topic of social dynamics I had no idea she was looking for someone to bring on her team nor that I would take my first student right then and there. Steve (name is made up of course) has been texting me and although I knew that I would be confronted with some interesting questions from students this one still caught me by surprise.
I received the following text:
The fact that Steve paid for a blow job is not that interesting to me but here is what is:
There are a couple lessons that we can all take from this:
Number one is fuck societal norms! Sex is one of the greatest things a human can experience. Honestly, what feels better than a body rocking orgasm or giving the like to someone with whom you have a connection? The feeling of your naked body meeting another’s is, to me, one of the most spiritual experiences that two (or more ;)) humans can experience together. I grew up in a very conservative household so I can relate to how Steve feels. I know women face a challenge here as well, no one wants to be called derogatory names or judged (slut, whore etc.) but if you want to date multiple people do it. There needs to be a book called Everybody Fucks. There is no shame in sex and if the world did it more often we’d all be happier people. Steve came to this conclusion in an interesting way but none the less it’s something that many people struggle with.
Number two is the balance of Want vs Need. The fact is that neediness is not an attractive quality but knowing what you want and going after that is. I have found that the hardest step to dating multiple people is finding the first one. Once I am dating one person my neediness for sexual satisfaction and companionship dissipates. Women can feel that I want them but am willing to walk away. This palpable effect is very powerful. This is what Steve is talking about when he said. “not giving a shit because he always has access to sex”.
Powerful stuff!
#thatisall
If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com