#TakingNotes: What Turns You On?
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“Do you prefer me in the thong, g-string, boy shorts, or bikini panties?”…
Maybe I’m not normal, but I was definitely thinking about sex when I was in elementary school. I remember reading a book on puberty and sex when I was in the 5th grade that I totally devoured. During breaks I would hide under a table in the back of class absolutely inhaling the information.
My First Porn
When I was 10 my friend’s babysitter accidentally took us to a porn at the movie theater. Of course I did the natural little girl thing of closing my eyes, even hiding my face with my fingers. But you better believed I peeked! I wasn’t horrified. I was intrigued! The movie took place in a whore house. The girls were in their early 20s, the guys were significantly older and Asian. I remember this one guy telling the girl to wash him off with a cloth when they were done. He just lay there on the bed as she got up, put on a cute simple pair of black silk Brazilian cut bikini panties, turned on the hot water in the sink, then came back to him to delicately clean him. It was a strikingly touching and sexy moment. I, clearly, have never forgotten.
My Dad’s Playboy
What is “sexy” is highly debatable and totally dependent on the individual’s preferences, often based on personal experiences and even fantasies that became branded into our brains from the time we were 10 years old and happened to peak at the big (though real- back then) boobs in our dad’s Playboy magazines hidden under the bed. And I’m not just talking about dudes, those images also helped create the definition and ideal of sexy in chick’s heads too. That whore movie from when I was 10 years old has for sure had an indelible impact on me. And, yes, I snooped in my dad’s Playboys and totally found the magazines sexy. And that’s not because I’m into chicks, it’s because I had never seen a naked woman’s body placed in a sexualized position before. It was hot! It was even a turn on.
And so my quest for what is sexy began. But not just trying to figure out what I find sexy. I wanted to know what guys find sexy. What’s interesting- they all like different things!
Bra, Panty, Lingerie Fashion Show!
I have an extensive collection of lingerie. Everything from boy shorts to crotch-less panties, teddies to …. well, you can imagine for yourself. When I have been seeing a guy for a significant period of time, I start to wonder what styles, outfits, specific bra and panty sets he prefers, is “eh” about, and totally dislikes. SO… I do a fashion show. This is not a sexy show, it isn’t a strip tease, it isn’t foreplay. I try on an outfit and ask “do you like this or no?” “What do you like/don’t like about it?” The items that he doesn’t like go into a special drawer- the “in case we break up and someone else may like them” drawer. This way I always know that what I have on, he likes, so I am not getting all gussied up and feeling sexy in some uber-uncomfortable getup that he finds totally un-sexy.
What I find most sexy on myself: black silk Brazilian cut bikini panties and no bra.
Taking notes… because if you don’t ask, how else are you going to know for sure?
P.S…. I’m actually wearing those black bikini panties in an image in my new book “QuickieChick’s Cheat Sheet to Life, Love, Food, Fitness, Fashion and Finance on a Less than Fabulous Budget” (St. Martin’s). It's filled with lots of tips- lived, learned, and noted......
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