#NerdsUnite: I just graduated college!! But um, now what? (social media passive aggressiveness)

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Megan. She recently just graduated from SDSU and is now entering the world with a fresh pair of eyes in a stinky economy. In these series of posts she will discuss her thoughts and discoveries as she ventures out into the real world. Hit it Meg!!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @MegCorbs

I've come to realize that taking the high road is extremely hard when it comes to Social Media.

I've been an avid Twitter user for a few years now. My account is public, which means anyone can see what I tweet. When I'm irritated with someone or fighting with them it's SO easy to send one of "those tweets" out into the universe to let off some steam and give a quick metaphorical jab.

I'm ashamed to say I've ever done this, but I have. So what do I mean by "those tweets."

You know, the ones where EVERYONE knows what/who you're talking about without you actually having to say specifics. You might as well be calling them out (which would be less childish) but no, you choose to go the passive aggressive route.

These are the tweets/wall posts that say things like, "I swear I attract nothing but crazy people to me" and "it's sad you can't just figure your shit out." etc.

You KNOW the person is going to read them because we, especially the social media kids, have some sick need to see and monitor when people are talking shit and then most likely engage in it.

Taking the high road and ignoring this behavior when someone does it to you is especially hard when you lead a very public life. It gives the person free reign to attack anything you hold dear or love. Also for them to tweet/follow/whatever people that you engage with on a daily basis.

I've been personally (well without being called out directly) attacked over classifying myself as a nerd. How it's just a trend and that I'm not really one. For me, this is hurtful because I've been a nerd my whole life and I've finally found an outlet and a group of people where I can embrace it instead of hiding from it. The person that did the passive aggressive tweeting knew all of this because I had tweeted about in the past. See how it works?

P.S. I totally get the irony about sharing this example without naming the person....

We need to stop the passive aggressiveness in social media. In the long run it doesn't make you feel any better and just shows how bitter and angry you are. Living well is the best revenge and you can't do that if you are focused on a person who isn't worth your time.

So next time you want to send out a jab to someone through Facebook or Twitter, just remember that YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT. No stalking their social media channels either!

#nerdsunite

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