#NerdsUnite: Feeling so inspired!
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Eric. He is a MAASSTTEERRR social dynamics expert that will be talking about his experiences in the field from both an expert, and experience perspective. He's not just saying "this is how to get the girl" he's here to share his actual life stories and lessons learned from them. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT ERIC !!</editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
There is something amazing about teaching social dynamics that makes me so inspired I have to write. It seems like it’s been ages since Jen and I had our last workshop and the progress that all these guys have made is INSANE. One of the guys who took the first class just wrote a super long post in our private Facebook group about a new girl that he is dating. He talked about how much his life has changed with work, his family, and of course his love life. I can’t even describe how much this warms my heart. Every time that I hear one of these stories it reaffirms how amazing this life changing process is.
Tonight I was finalizing the curriculum for our part two of our workshop. The part that I’m most excited about is calibration and looking at the personality types of both guys and girls. This stuff is INSANELY powerful. This section of the course is based off a study that looks at the personality types of men that women find attractive and then correlates the female personality types that match. So for instance, extroverted women like social leaders. Women who make emotional decisions are attracted to bad boys and so on.
It probably comes as no surprise that most of the guys that take social dynamic workshops fall into the nice guy bucket, I certainly do. But here is the thing, there is a common flaw in nice guys and that’s neediness and/or weakness. I know this all too well. I spent my life being pushed around by people I thought were my friends, and my bosses and also my father. In my last post I dealt with this same thing, I had to stand up for myself in my business life. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and I had to dig deep to find the courage to do so.
If you’re reading this post and you know you fall into this category that's awesome, women find that personality type attractive. But, be a nice guy don’t be a weak guy. You can be both nice and strong and that combination is really powerful, not just in your romantic life but in every facet of your life. I am still a very nice guy and I still deal with my neediness and weakness. More and more I realize that the path of personal growth is never over. It changes over time and new challenges arise.
One of the hardest challenges that nice guys face when it comes to social dynamics is the first one, and that’s admitting that you want to make a change. There is something in the back of our head that tells us we’re less of a man because we’re admitting we want help with women. You’re not, you’re stronger for being vulnerable enough to admit you can improve this area of your life, it takes a lot of balls. Or maybe you think that studying social dynamics will turn you into a douche. Guess what, you’re still going to be you, just a better or different version of you. Lastly people think social dynamics is all about bedding women. It’s not, it’s about learning what motivates people to do what they do and that skill permeates every area of your life.
The contributors here are on TNTML constantly put themselves out there, find that place of vulnerability and let go. Every time they grow and become better because of it. So if you’re sitting on the sidelines, get the fuck up and do something. Invest in yourself, you’re worth it. Studying social dynamics may not be for you but everybody has an area of their life they want to improve. Move forward today, just take one step and be brave. It’s hard, believe me I know but you have an entire community here that will support you. More than half of the posts I’ve written for this site have brought me to tears but the other side always feels so much better. My relationship with my business partner is 10x better than it was before, and had I not dug deep and decided to grow stronger I would have ran again! I’m telling you first hand that when you let go and simply start moving forward everything gets better. Whatever your area of improvement may be, just make one step forward today, JUST ONE. Your life isn’t going to change overnight but you’ll be further ahead than you were yesterday. Do that for a couple months and you’ll be at the top of a mountain basking in how far you’ve come and looking over the ridge at the next leg of your journey. That’s progress, that’s what life is about.
#thatisall
Interested in taking Eric and Jen's social dynamics workshop where you will learn not how to "bed women" or "pick up chicks" but rather how to understand social cues, and read social situations? Email Jen for more info: JenFriel at talknerdytomelover d c and check out what one our past students had to say.
Next beginners workshop: October 26 7:30pm in Hollywood, CA
YAY PERSONAL GROWTH!!!
If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com