#NotUrLoverGirl: One lost angel's little journey to find her lover
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Shinarae
It's been a few weeks now & I'm adjusting quite well to the life style out here, and I'm LOVING that!! The impatience, the traffic, the gloom, it's easy to adapt. Just keep smiling at jerky people, find the back roads, sleep late & pray for July, and you're in there like mohair. I've got it, go with the flow, and enjoy every minute of the adventures found out here; even the shitty one's that make me wanna punch DB's in the face!!
At the very least, it's something (or someone) to laugh at later. Buuuuut there is one thing that I just really can't get with! Guys why oh why are some of you such friggin' girls??
Don't get me wrong, a little metro is chill. I like a guy who knows how to keep himself in shape, or who's toes aren't all gnarly and tore up, and even a deep v-neck tee or short shorts are hot sometimes, personal style is sexy whether you prefer a hipster or an urban lover. But where does it end?? Mani/pedis & facials, ok, ok, Ima raise an eyebrow, still I'll always take well groomed over unhygenic. This is the other side of equality. Women get to be execs, and men can be stay at home husbands, duh, of course; so eventually they'd figure out how good spa days feel & want to get in on it.
But men & for that matter women, I draw the line when you start getting emotional too early. Well I'm sorry, I just don't know how to deal. I mean don't string me along for a year, move to another city and tell me "but I do care about you, this isn't over", that's also shitty, but jeez.....
After a first date, are you really going to miss me, or (worse so much worse, and really pretty creepy in fact) think that you love me?? Me thinks not, my friend.
In doing my part to "move on" I've been out a few times here in my new city. Soooooo, potential lovers, how is it that after 1 date, ONE SINGULAR LITTLE DATE, and more often than not not even what I'd consider a good date, I've already heard both of these lines??? How people HOW?? How can you presume to miss &/or love me before you've even gotten to know me???
*pounds on the table* C'est Impossible!!
Post first date I will know somethings......
I'll be quite sure whether or not I want to see my suitor again.
Heck I'll prolly even know about how long I'll wait before we'll do the nasty; a week, a month, never.....
I'll know if he's going to be good on paper, in bed, neither or both, but buuuuuuuuuut I don't think I've ever walked away from a first date thinking "Golly...." -that's how a sentence this out-of-the-50's starts "Golly, I'm really going to miss him". Not even when I really, really, REALLY liked the date, so much so I'm considering pushing up the get down date. I would never let info like that out that soon anyhow, the smell of desperation is icky. Bleh.
One of the best & most memorable first dates I ever went on was a few years back, and at the end of it, we stood outside my hotel in the windy summer air and he did something totally unexpected. He looked in my eyes, then at my lips, then in my eyes again, then at my lips again (and I did the same, waiting.....and wanting) and do you know what he did then???
He did NOT kiss me. He said goodnight and watched me walk inside. I walked away and knew we were both thinking about it. It was such a tease, ooooooh man, and made me fantasize about what I'd look forward to until the next time we saw each other. Still gets me a little tingly.
On a date I ask questions & I divulge intimacies, but chances are that I haven't even told you my last name and if you haven't asked, I assume you're not even interested enough to find out a fairly important detail, so how is it possible to miss someone you don't even truly know. Riddle me this??
Frigging grow a pair, show your genuine interest, or at the very least stop lying, whatevs just keep that emotion inside for a while. You're fucking up the whole ambiance of dating....... It's called mystery.
Ex. I look amazing with out clothes on, but even if I want to jump your bones on the first date, I don't have any intention of letting you see me in my skivvy's anytime soon. I guarantee you'll appreciate it a LOT more after I make you work to see it. And thus, I'll appreciate it a lot more if you miss me with all the immediamente I'll miss you lovey dovey fake ass fakeness.
From now on, that's gonna be a deal breaker for me. If you miss me before date 5, no yellow card for you, you're straight out the game...... & I'm NOT going to miss you.
*Kisses & Deuces*
#noturlovergirl
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